Connie "Secret" Morrison

by Richard
(Bridgeport, WV)

My mothers life began on November22, 1934 and ended on July 11,2011, She was 76 years old. Mom was a very vibrant woman and as colorful as her red hair. She loved fashion and was a woman before her time, she loved to cook and loved dogs, but she loved her family more than anything in this world. On November11,2011 my mother will be dead for four months and I miss her so much. My heart hurts and I feel alone. I never knew it was going to be this hard. At first, I felt numb and being her caretaker helped prepare me for her death,but now the numbness is turning into tears. My brother tells me to stop mourning, "she is dead". I can't think that way because I fear that I will forget her voice or her eyes or her, period, I fear forgetting the best person I have ever known. I love <3 you MOM....Today....Tomorrow.....ALWAYS!

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Nov 19, 2011
I'm standing beside you Connie
by: NANCY Ng

My mom passed on 7 weeks ago, she was 75yrs old and I am 51. I cry most days and still sob on some of them. I to worry that I will forget her. I have scrounged up every photo of her and made a special album. I have memory notebooks in my kitchen and purse and write down memories as they pop into my head. My favourite picture of her beautiful smiling face is now poster size in my kitchen and I say good morning to it each day and where we also have small chats. I cry because I miss her, I cry because she no longer enjoys life with us, I cry because she suffered and mostly I cry because I can't stop it.
I'm surprised that as I'm letting go of her I've discovered an amazing clarity of her spirit, her character of her heart. I know her more intimately now than I ever did when she was alive. And yes...that makes me cry. BUT..I know this.....my moms soul has come to find rest and peace in my heart. And this I will NEVER forget.

Nov 14, 2011
mourning still
by: Cis

I hope it is okay to mourn, because I feel like I still need to. My wonderful mother-in-law died suddenly a year and a half ago and my mother died a year ago today. We are a very close family and my mother lived with us for the last 5 years of her life. She was my best friend and I miss her so much that I ache with it. I question everything that happened regarding her death, should I have tried to make her fight harder, should I have begged her not to give up. My mother-in-law walked into a cold river and just laid down and none of us know why. My Mom just decided she was tired of taking medication and forcing herself to breathe. They were both well-loved and had happy lives, so I have been trying to understand how they chose this. Or did they choose it? And I miss them.

Oct 27, 2011
Won't Ever Forget
by: Pat J.

Richard,

I can tell you from experience, you will never forget anything about your mother. My mom died 35 years ago on June 25,1976. I was 29 years old. She was not only my mother, but my best friend. I was married with 5 children, so I was very busy, which helped me cope with her death.
She is as dear to my heart today as then. I am also grieving again. This time I am grieving the loss of my husband of 46 years. How ironic, but he died on June 27. 2011. Our 46th wedding anniversary was June 26,2011. My mom died the day before our 11th wedding anniversary and 35 years later my husband died the day after our 46th. I feel there has to be some meaning in this; but right now can't quite figure out the reason; except these are probably the two people in my life that made me what I am today. My dad died 5 years ago in April, and his death hurt also.
Living without the three of them is difficult, but losing my husband is the worst. I am trying to live the life he would want me to. Today it is 4 months since he died. He took part of my heart with him, but I am taking it one day at a time.
Don't let anyone tell you to get over it. We all handle our grief differently and everyone's relationship with their loved one is different.
Just take it one day at a time. Cherish your memories. You will always remember her voice, though you don't hear it, you will picture her smile, though you can't see it. She will always live in your heart.
I kiss my husbands picture every morning and night. I tell him good morning and good night every night. Does he hear me; my faith tells me he is watching over me, waiting for me to join him one day.
God Bless You and take it one day at a time.

Oct 27, 2011
I'M ALSO LIVING WITH GRIEF
by: sharon

I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU GOING THROUGH. FEELING SO ALONE. I LOST MY MOM YESTERDAY AND I WASN'T PREPARED FOR IT. I DON'T THINK ANYONE IS EVER PREPARED. IT WAS 10 YEARS 1 MONTH AND 10 DAYS SINCE THE DEATH OF MY DAD THAT MY MOM DIED. I NEVER FORGOT HIM. SO MANY THINGS WOULD BRING BACK MEMORIES OF HIM. HE WAS THE FUNNIEST PERSON I KNEW. SOMETIMES I WOULD EVEN GET A WHIFF OF SOMEONE WHO WOULD BE WEARING OLD SPICE AND I WOULD CRY FROM MISSING HIM. EVERYONE GRIEVES DIFFERENTLY AND YOU REALLY NEVER GET OVER IT. I KNOW I NEVER WILL. AND NOW THAT MY MOM HAS LEFT THE WORLD TO BE WITH HIM AGAIN, I KNOW MY SADNESS OF MISSING HER WILL NEVER GO AWAY. SHE WAS MY BEST FRIEND AND A WONDERFUL MOTHER. JUST TRY TO HANG IN THERE AND I WILL TO. IF YOU EVER NEED A FRIEND WHO UNDERSTANDS I WILL BE THERE

Oct 27, 2011
Grieve When you Must
by: Judith in California

Richard, your brother is being brash and he can't tell you how to grieve or mourn. How dare he! You do what you have to and you'll eventually be fine. Grief is a process and it takes time that only you know when to come to peace with her passing. Since you were the caregiver and not your brother you have more things to come to terms with. I was a caregiver to my husband, and no matter if we expect them to pass, it is still a shock. It's been a year and two months for me and I still have my days at least once or twice a week to where I cry for hours.

And don't fear you will forget . It's normal to fear that. When my husband passed I couldn't remember his face and it scared me but I was in shock. Then I remembered I have tons of pictures and memories so it won't happen.

You just deal with it in your own way and feel sorry for a brother who won't.

God bless you in this journey to peace.

Oct 27, 2011
Connie "secret" Morrison
by: Anonymous

you will never stop missing your mom i was 18 when my mom passed on. Today 20 years later i still go home to my dads house and lay on my mom side of the bed and cry for her like a baby. yet my dad is remarried his bedroom has never changed. Mourn for as long as you wish no one can tell you stop crying and to stop mourning as a care taker i feel your pain my mom had cancer and with the cancer stages became like a baby I use to hold her with one hand and get into the bath with her to give her a bath. She tried to make us smile in all her pain by saying she was Ghandi. That pain never goes trust me just know that she is by your side and is wiping your tears as they role.

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