Dad and the Dog

by Rebecca
(North Carolina)

My dad passed away July 31, 2010 at 4:30 am. The hospital called to tell my mom and I and to say it coming as a shock is an understatement. We had been told that he would be able to come home the next day. He wouldn't let us stay at the hospital with him at night, saying we should go home and rest and be ready to entertain him the following day, as he had already been in the hospital for almost two weeks.

My mom wanted to start making phone calls right away but I told her no, I didn't want a bunch of people standing around watching me as I said good bye to my father. I had to say goodbye to my father! I realized that I would never hear his voice again or see his smiling face or watch him play with his dogs or get a phone call saying "haven't heard from you in a day or two and just wanted to check in".

The day we were to bury him, we had to bury his big dog, who had been with him for 15 years, who when he found her as a pup said "we'll keep her, she won't get very big" and she ended up being over 200 pounds. She was an old girl with her own health problems but she always had that spark of light in her eyes. She changed the day he died, the light disappeared and she was so sad. She wouldn't eat, "smile", or wag her tail at us. She passed peacefully in her sleep and went to be with Dad.

The grief is hitting me hard because not only did I lose my father, but I lost my grandmother two years ago and lost my uncle 3 months before my dad passed.

I think my dad knew. The last time I spoke with him, I said "I love you, I'll see you in the morning" and he said "I love you too and I'll see you after while." There was something in his voice and the way he looked at me. He was so calm and serene.

I miss him. I can't help my mom in her grief because I'm not grieving the loss of a husband, I'm grieving the loss of my daddy. He wasn't perfect, he made mistakes but he loved me and I love him deeply and I miss him everyday.

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Nov 09, 2010
TO REBECCA
by: Anonymous

I extend to you my sympathy. It broke my heart to read your post. I lost my dad several years ago and my brother John 3 years after him. Now they are all gone. I lost my mom July 2009 and my brother July 2010. I hate July. I was glad when it was past. My mom and brother went unexpectedly also. I am still grieving so I can't tell you how long it will take before you feel any better.

His dog knew he was gone and she wanted to go too. I'm sorry. Let your Mom grieve however she needs to and you do the same.

I'll be praying for you, and grieving along with you. Out there somewhere we'll find peace. God must still have work for me to do, so we'll continue on this journey and help each other with prayers and hope. Bless you.

Nov 07, 2010
Dad and the dog
by: Mari

I am very sorry for your loss. It sounds as if your dad had a feeling like my husband did. That is sad about the dog too missing your dad too much.

I realize this is a bad time for you but I want to assure you that your dad and his buddy, the dog are both safe with the Lord.Also the Bible says that the lion shall lay down with the lamb so you know there will be animals in heaven too.
Some day you will have a glorious reunion with both.

I thank God for the years I had my husband and it is hard for me too with the first anniversary coming up on Nov 22 that he went to be with the Lord. A new great grandaughter is due around Dec 26th, our first great, so it will be a mixture of joy and sorrow because I know that my husband would be so pleased.

You need time to heal and the stages of grief have to be gone through. I am coming along after a year but Nov is not a good month for me. Thanksgiving without him, my birthday without him, the anniversary when he just went to sleep. The thing I am looking forward to with joy is the church walkathon and the baby shower at the church for my grandaughter. The memorial will be hard.

But God is good. He will never leave us nor forsake us. Keep posting. This is a wonderful board. Take care of yourself. We care.

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