Dad has gone 48 days

by Dawn
(Hong Kong)

My dad has gone for 48 days from now. He got a sudden stroke and died just 8 hours after we sent him to the hospital. Life is so fragile and I still didn't believe that he has gone ( no sign before) and he was 67. We keep on telling ourself that dad got no regrets in life, 3 kids, a lovely wife and we had family gathering every week and talk and talk and talk. He did enjoy even the last moment in his life. Drinking coffee, Walking Dogs, Huggin my mum, reading books in the morning he passed away. However, the feeling that we are not able to kiss him , talk to him is very strange. I feel empty though life is pushing us forward. Mum is getting stable with our support, but i know, time will never heal. She lost her life partner. We can't celebrate father's day and new year forever. Everyone is tell us you guys are already not in the worse case. No pain for my dad. No financial burden...but, do they understand that we are not able to see our dad anymore? Do they understand that my mum need to live alone in her rest of life ( she is only 53)? Do they understand he is someone who raise us up? do they understand he is the core spirit of our family? I got a decent job and got promoted in Apr. But, i dun feel happy at all coz it can't bring my dad's back!!!! We will settle grandmum's ashes together with grandmum tmr. Tmr will be a forever goodbye to him...............I wish someday i will post a note to encourage and help other to go through the pain

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Apr 19, 2011
someone cares
by: Anonymous

Dawn, No one can feel the pain that you and your family is going through except all of us here on this website. We understand your pain and you are not alone. God can give us the strength to carry on and the courage to face each minute, each hour of the day. My heart goes out to you, you lost your father, I lost my husband, so I feel both your and your mother's pain. I too grieve for my husband and my children grieve for their father and you are right those who have never gone through this do not understand. Let yourself grieve, cry when you feel like crying and make the best of each day. I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts.

Apr 19, 2011
For Dad is gone 48 days
by: Anonymous

My dad has been gone 28 days. It helps to read that other people are experiencing the same pain as I am. The pain almost feels worse on some days as if I just found out. My dad and I talked numerous times a day and spent weekends with him. I miss him so much and I'm wondering if I'll ever find happiness again. Some days I just think I have to have him back, how am I supposed to go on without him? It's so painful:(

Apr 18, 2011
Take all the time you need to grieve
by: Anonymous

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your Father. Not a tear or a sigh is ever wasted.
(God sees. He cares.)

I know it hurts...I recently lost mine too.
It is so helpful to think and talk about your memories of your Dad. It brings emotions to the surface where they can in honesty and time,
bring healing. May God bless you and your family,
and give you hope and strength for each new day.
Love never ends.

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