Dad, I miss u so much

by Tracey
(Australia)


At 5.15pm on the 6th June 2014 (exactly 1 mth ago) I lost my dad, my best friend, my protector. Your voice when you answered the phone replays in my head all the time & pretty much think of you every second, cry every few hours. I believe in signs & have had a few & just hope it's you. My heart is broken & will never be repaired as you took part of it with you. I know life goes on, I have to be strong for mum & my kids but I will never be the same. I miss you beyond words Dad, your loving daughter xxxx

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Jul 09, 2014
Thank you
by: Tracey

Oh Donna, you think his smile is contagious, you should have heard his chuckle. Donna & Annon, I'm so sorry for your losses & thank you for taking the time to comment. I posted this as a way of expressing my grief but have had such lovely strangers care enough to share their grief & support & I feel comforted to know I'm not alone & my feelings are normal. I guess we just have to be strong, enjoy life until we meet our precious angels in the next life. Love to you all xx

Jul 09, 2014
I know how you feel
by: Doreen UK

Dear Anonymous,
I agree with you that sympathy will not help you in grief. But what we offer you is EMPATHY. The ability to understand and support you with care and kindness because we also stand in your shoes. You may be feeling your grief more because you are not letting your grief out. I picked this up when you said you are trying to control your emotions. This is the time you need to express your emotions and cry as much as you are able. Only then will you start to heal and move forward even if it be slowly and in small ways. Don't try to be strong. You spoke of your mum being strong and kind and caring. She brought you up so you must also have these traits in your character, and emotional make up. In time you will exhibit your mam's traits and you will always have a great part of her within you as she nurtured you. If you are struggling with grief and not feeling like you are moving forward then go and see a grief counsellor who will assist you with any blockages one of which will be holding back your emotions.

Jul 09, 2014
Sorry for your loss.
by: Donna

When My dad passed February 21st 2014, time stopped for me. He had been ill for over a year between a bleeding ulcer, fouled surgery and then diagnosed with lung cancer in 2013. Trying to find where I belong in my own life again has been hard. My role now has shifted to making sure Mom is ok and happy. Make sure things around her home get done. Yet every time I step into the house sadness consumes me. I cannot go into the room where he passed, and "his" room (dad cave) is still the same. All his stuff pretty much as he left it except that mom has actually gotten to clean the room. I wish I had uplifting words for you. Most days words are hard to come by. The memories I have of my dad will forever be burned in my mind. I so hope to be able to smile about them soon and not be so overwhelmed with sadness. Your dad's smile is contagious. I spent several minutes looking at his photo. Thanks for sharing it.

Jul 08, 2014
I know how you feel
by: Anonymous

My Mam died 6th December 2013 and I feel so sad all the time. I miss her so much my heart just aches and sometimes I feel it is such a burden trying to seem ok when you are just dying inside My Mam meant everything to me she was always there so strong ,so tiny and yet she had such a happy outlook on life .I have no brothers or sisters only my Dad and he is old sad and Lonely too. The funny thing is I don't want sympathy from anybody because while everybody means well and I do appreciate that I does not ease the pain not one little bit .I wish I could keep my emotions under control because I know my Mam would hate to see me so sad but she is not here to make it better so all I can do is pray some day my pain will ease and I will feel a little happier but for now my heart remains broken I just wanted to share with you how I feel so you will know there is someone going through the same thing the horrible finality of death and the total numbness of grief I will pray for you every night whoever you are . Take care of yourself and never try not thinking of your Dad just think he is beside you giving you a big hug and making it all better for no matter how old we are we are always our parents babies X

Jul 08, 2014
Thank You
by: Tracey

Thanks you Jane & Doreen for your kind words & advise & I am truly sorry for your losses. Even though we are strangers & on the other side of the world, we share the same grief. Love to you for taking the time to care xxxx

Jul 08, 2014
Dad, I miss u so much
by: Doreen UK

Tracey you have a lovely looking father. I am so sorry for your loss. My 3 Adult Children lost their father 2 years ago to a deadly cancer. Living without my husband is hard and in the same place as your mum losing her husband. Best way forward is TAKING ONE DAY AT A TIME. Life does get easier in time, but the process of grief is slow and very painful. Supporting each other is very important. I had immense support from my siblings, and this helped me so much. Death is one of the worst problems to deal with in life. Recovery is so slow. But don't give up Hope. You will recover. If you find yourself struggling or your mother struggling with her grief losing her husband you can see a grief counsellor who will support you all well.

Jul 06, 2014
Dad, I miss you so much
by: Jane

Dear Tracey, I am so sorry for you that your Daddy died. He has so much love in his eyes. He was a wonderful person. It is hard for me to find the right words for you, but Tracey, I realy know how you feel, because I am missing my mom. You are so absolutley right when you write "I will never be the same." I can underline it, because my self changed a lot. Cry, when you feel like crying. Tears a healing a little bit the pain. Maybe your Daddy pick up all your tears and keeps them as a special gift from you. Because every tear shows him your love. Much love Jane

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