Dad lost in vain.

by Pawar

On 15/06/2013, early in the morning around 1:30 am I lost my dad. He was just 64 years old . Fate played a game which taught us many lessons. We went to so many counties in 35 years span from the day my elder brother took birth in this world. Finally, in 2008 dad and mom decided to come our own land of ancestor. We were leaving happily with the hope of our own locality and and own people who all belongs to our own community. But on that particular night we came to know our world around us is not the same how we are assuming.I still recall the scenario from when my dad collapsed on floor, my mom knocked the door of my neighbor, and they didn't open the door, but was whispering on other side of door. I went down to security and begged them for a hospital call but they were all walking like king in garden. I some how managed to get help from street and took my dad to nearest hospital which is 7 km away. The so called biggest known hospital of that city, then at 2 am refused to check or even take my dad inside hospital, and threaten me of police inquiry on it. I was so helpless, my dad passed away in the car and was lying down as if he is tired of all those rat race life. He wanted to be calm and sleep for a while. I went to him, and asked him to forgive me that I could not save him. He saved us from all the sickness , but when his turn came I let him go away. I feel regretted but also at same time anger for my community, and call myself an Indian.

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Jul 15, 2013
Dad lost in vain
by: Doreen U.K.

Pawar I am sorry for your loss of your dad and for the circumstances in which he died a senseless death from your community of hard callous people with no heart.
In normal circumstances in the western world a man will even risk his life to go and rescue someone from a mountain, at sea, or anywhere a person finds themselves in danger, even rescuing animals. But for your community to betray a person like you who needed help and deny you the help you needed they are the ones with blood on their hands. You did not let your father down what happened is you tried everything you could to save your dad but time was not on your side due to all the delays. Even the hospital denying your father the care he needed is a great let down and grievous injustice. You will quite naturally be filled with anger that your father did not need to die so quickly. Medical intervention could have saved him. I would have thought that India is becoming modern and up and coming facilities would have made life easier and not like the old days. But I guess it depends where you live and if you could access services quickly. What has happened is a grave injustice to you and your remaining family. I guess even if you took this matter further to make someone accountable for this injustice and premature death of your father it would take its toll on you in stress taking on this challenge. Talk as much as you can to professional bodies of people so that you can get this anger out of your system and on the shoulders of the people who bear this responsibility in a duty of care. You should have been supported when you asked for HELP. I pray to God that He comforts you and your family and gives you the strength to cope with your grief and loss of your dad and that you will find the answers you are looking for so your anger can go.

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