Dad, my friend, my confidant, you will always be with me.

I was on vacation at the beach with my Dad and family the week before he fell ill. The night he returned from the beach he told my Mother he was very tired, at 78, she thought the heat of the beach had worn him out and he might be dehydrated. By Wednesday we took him to the ER because he had become very weak. They wanted to send him home because they couldn't come up with a reason. After our insistence, they admitted him. He rapidly declined and they determined sepsis but could never find the source. My Dad was a beautiful Angel, a big, strong, intelligent retired Firefighter that lived every minute of his life helping and worrying about others and never complaining about himself. He was unconscious the last week of his life and the morning he took his last breath on this earth, his wife and 5 children were touching him and telling him how much we appreciated having this amazing, wonderful person in our lives. The following week was my parents 55th wedding anniversary, she is amazing and strong and I pray every minute that she will be able to go on with out his companionship, she will always have his love. Dad, I miss you every second, you have and always will be my hero. Xoxoxo

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Apr 06, 2013
To Dee
by: Hannah

i am so sorry about your loss. I know how you feel. I want to be alone too and just hide under the covers and be left alone. It seems we know someday we will lose our parents, but we never imagine that day. I never imagined not being with my mom or dad. My first response is to pick up the phone and call my mom or dad when things happen and I can't do that anylonger. I feel like i am in a dream and I can't wake up. I know my dad was suffering from alzheimers, but luckily he didnt have it very long. My mom was where I had to feed her, bathe her, and do everything for her. I was there every single day to do for them. My mom said she didnt remember me sleeping in the ICU holding her hand everynight for months. I told her that was ok, I wasn't going to leave her alone. My dad went peacefully in his sleep, but my mom went gasping for air like a fish out of water. That still haunts me. I still see that in my head. I know I did everything possible for them, but I miss them so much. I don't think a day will ever go by that I won't miss them deeply. It is horrible that my mom fought breast cancer three times and survived, but pneumoia took her out. Hang in there Dee, you are so not alone. I feel your pain and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Love always my sister, Hannah

Aug 15, 2012
Response to Dee from U.K.
by: Anonymous

Dear Dee,

I am truly so sorry for the loss of your husband and can honestly say that I can truly not imagine the grief you are experiencing. I hope and pray that you will find peace and serenity in your future. I respectfully disagree with you about the general state of the world we live in, people are inherently good and want to be there for you. My Father taught me this through his words and actions and it will be how I live my life, carry on, support my Mother and family and people in general. It may be to early for you to consider, but when you are ready I think getting involved with people through your church, community, local fitness club or volunteer work will greatly benefit you. People want your company and want to be there for you, you don't need to be alone every night, it will take a leap of faith and some steps forward on your part. I will pray for you and know that you will find the strength to move on and live a happy life, I am sure this is what your husband would have wanted for you. All the best.

Aug 15, 2012
Dad, my friend, my confidant, you will always be with me
by: Dee U.K.

I am sorry for your loss of your Dad. It is the worst feeling ever to lose someone special from our life. It will be especially hard for your mother having been married for so long. The worst part of this grief journey is not having that person around anymore. Not seeing their face, or touching them, or talking to them and all those special moments gone forever. All we have left is the memories. Sadly life is not forever. We will keep losing people from our lives and it won't get easier.
I used to have 6 people around the dinner table and I feared one day if this would end, as all good things usually do. Well it did. I lost my dear husband 3 months ago. Other people have moved on. My father is in care, my daughter works and so it is only myself. 6 people became 1. I eat ALONE now. It is a very hard place to be. Why shouldn't we want the good times to last. But they never do. We seem to inherit more worse times. Because we live in a fallen world.

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