Dad was my rock!

by Sue

I lost my Dad last November 2013 suddenly, he shouldn't have died, if the Doc had realised a urine infection and put him onto antibiotics early enough, he'd have been fine. Dad was always there for me at the end of the phone, round the corner, if I had problems always a lending ear. My hubby had a terrible accident 4 years ago, who was there Dad, when my dog had a terrible infection and became paralysed , who helped us through Dad, like I said he was my rock and I find it so hard to go on now! It was always Dad and me, Mum and my sis. Since my Dad has died Mum has turned on my husband and won't have him in the house, I still visit but it makes things hard for me. I now have Osteoarthritis and finding things even worse, the pain is terrible some days and I just want my Dad to say it will be okay and give me a cuddle! My hubby works hard and doesn't have time for me, I have to beg him for a few minutes to chat. I feel so low, I have children and they are good but have their own lives. All I have are my dogs, they are so loving and keep me going, although they can be hard work at times. I know I didn't always do things right in Dads eyes but nobody is perfect. I cry most days I'm so lonely and sad, not only did I lose my Dad but the same week as his funeral I lost my young dog with Renal failure, it's just all to much to bare at the moment. Miss you so much Dad!!!!!!

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Sep 01, 2014
Dad was my rock!
by: Doreen UK

Sue this is such an unbearable time for you. Losing your Dad. Having painful issues between your mum and husband that doesn't seem as if there has been any resolution. You are caught in the middle and feeling low with no proper support. I lost my husband of 44yrs. to a deadly cancer 2yrs. ago. He worked so hard for 47yrs. of his working life and he was often too tired to talk and have the conversations we expected. Perhaps your husband is too tired. You will know from the interaction between your mum and husband and yourself that to leave things the way they are will serve no purpose. You can as an independent person go and see a counsellor for support for yourself and see this as "ME" time. You may be pleasantly surprised at how better you can feel, and reclaim your life. I did the counselling bit in my 40's. Best investment I ever made. I related in a way that healed those I interacted with daily. I lost all sensitivity that existed in a relationship where the husband was away from home a lot and hard to reconnect. I flourished and so did my family. My husband was a happier person as was my children and they had a new wife/mother. You don't need to continue to suffer in silence. Do it for yourself and your own recovery from all your losses.

Sep 01, 2014
Dad was my rock!
by: Sue

Thanks Barb, I look at Dads picture and say why didn't he take me instead? Something will happen and I'll think I must tell Dad (forgetting he's gone), I too am a grown woman with two grown up girls. Dad was so clever and would always know how to get over problems, I'd just bought ducks and wanted water for them, that's okay he said I've a pump we can sort something out, of course we never did. He loved it here with all the animals, I told him next year I'll hatch you some eggs so you can have chickens, next year didn't come for him. You think your parents will always be here, can't imagine them gone until it happens. Life is really hard at times! Sue x

Aug 30, 2014
Dear Sue,
by: Anonymous

I can relate to your post as I lost my Dad almost two years ago. He died suddenly, from cardiac arrest, and I will never be the same. He was my rock...the one I always called. Even though I am a grown woman, I always turned to my Dad for answers. I miss him so much, every single day. You are not alone in your grief, and I hope you find comfort on this website. It has been a tremendous help to me, and I hope it is for you as well. May you find peace as you begin to heal, Barb.

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