Daniel-22-heart attack

by Annette
(Mooresville N.C.)

My 22 year old son Daniel died of a heart attack on July 22,2012. I am devastated. He was the middle child of 4 children. We are all very close and just had the most wonderful start to the summer. Daniel is a very talented and upcoming chef with a bright future in the culinary arts.
On July 21, he had a day out with his younger brother and friends. He was smiling from ear to ear the last time I saw him. Later in the evening he started having heart burn, a symptom he often complained of....I thought from the spicy foods and Tabasco sauce he ate constantly. He also had complained a few weeks before only to take tums and say it was better.
On July 22, I left for work around 5:30am and my life will never, ever be the same. I came home at 1:30pm to emergency vehicles in front of the house. I thought a fire or something, due to the firetruck being the first vehicle I immediately saw. I walked up to toward the front door and noticed an empty stretcher on the sidewalk with an EMT standing beside of it. My youngest son ran out to stop me from entering the house. He said, "Mamma it's Daniel." I said, "What's wrong with Daniel." He said, "he's gone." Gone where? "He's dead Mamma..he was purple when I came down stairs and I went in his room to find the phone." The corner called the next day after conducting an autopsy. Something they usually don't do. He told me to get the other children tested immediately. Daniel has died of an enlarged heart and heart failure.
What is wrong with me? I had heart surgery at 35. Why didn't I realize that the heart burn was a symptom of a possible heart attack. What kind of mother doesn't get their child checked sooner if heart disease is hereditary. I totally blame myself for his death. It was so preventable. I will never forgive myself. for his death.

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Sep 28, 2014
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by: Jennie

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Sep 05, 2014
Similar Loss
by: Cindy

I lost my 22 year old son on July 23, 2014 in very similar circumstances. I too came home around 1:15 p.m. to find my son on the floor, face and upper torso blue. I just want you to know that even knowing that your son has a heart condition (cardiomyopothy), is taking medication and seeing a doctor regularly cannot prevent a heart attach. We are still waiting to hear the results of the autopsy but most likely his heart just stopped. I am also struggling with the what if's (like if only I had checked on him before leaving for work, or if I had been home...) We love our children unconditionally and we want answers to why we are suffering the unthinkable. I pray that in time I be able to think about my son without remembering the horrible way I found him the afternoon of July 23rd. My heart breaks and is empty!

Sep 04, 2014
Your son
by: Kate

My heart goes out to you. I lost my son Nov. 17,2012
I don't know how I have made it thus far. This is the hardest thing ever in life to have to accept.your anguish is part of grief.
We ask ourselves what could I have done,as a protective loving parent we feel we failed somewhere,it's a normal part of grief. Sorrow,pain,guilt,blame,so many emotions flood us to try and figure out WHY! You don't expect a child at 22 to have heart disease so you don't look for it. He was young. It is a shock. We can never figure out what we could have done to help even tho those thoughts will come at us.......and we will think .....if I had ....but nothing changes the facts that they are not here. That's the horrible part. Trying to live without them. I
Am so sorry you have had to face this loss. I know my life will never be the same over losing my son. I am trying so hard to go on for my other children,I had five. Each one is a special gem. We can only keep trying and come here to speak where we are truly heard. I pray for help everyday. God help us all.

Sep 03, 2014
Daniel-22-heart attack
by: Doreen UK

Annette I am so sorry for your loss of your son Daniel at such a young age of 22yrs. This is a mother's worst nightmare. She rears her children and just puts them in the hands of God. This is all a mother can do. We are losing our children at a faster rate these days. The Universe is crushing us with death.
DON'T BLAME YOURSELF! for Daniels death. Daniel was a responsible Adult who wouldn't have taken kindly to a mother nagging him even if it was for his best interests. Many people get heartburn all the time from eating spicy food and from many medications. I had to take one pill for heartburn which caused other side effects and then another pill for those side effects. Where does it end. I have heartburn 24/7. I have gotten so used to it. Mine is due to eating spicy food and also from my medication. I feel as if my inside is on fire. I also have heart problems and don't know if this will kill me. I am sick every day. Just recovering from pneumonia. I can't take any antibiotics as they all have serious side effects and I could die of anaphalactic shock. One time my throat closed up. One just doesn't know how serious life threatening conditions can be and now our hospitals can't cope with the overload. I was given oxygen and a nebulizer and antibiotics for pneumonia and sent home the same day. Once upon a time this disease would be treated with more respect and proper care given. God is our only HOPE!

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