Dan's Mom

I lost my wonderful 34 year old son to cancer 20 months ago. I have two surviving adult children. When someone asks me how many children I have, I don't know how to answer. In my heart I have three. How do other mothers handle this question?

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May 13, 2012
I Will Always Have Three Children
by: Anonymous

I lost my middle son and I still say I have three children. If the situation warrants, I explain one is deceased. I will always have three children.

May 12, 2012
Thank You
by: Anonymous

Thank you to all of you who gave me feedback on my question. You have really helped me. God Bless each and every one of you for taking the time to share how you have coped with your own loss.

May 10, 2012
by: Anonymous

Though the child is dead, HE or SHE, still remains ones child. I believe death is just a change of form. HE or SHE is now in spirit, AN ANGEL, waiting for reunion. Always to be counted with the surviving ones. Sorry about your loss.
We are in a situation we did not bargain for, but we can and will endure by GOD'S GRACE. AMEN.

May 07, 2012
by: Anonymous

Answer with the truth, you have had 3 children. Your heart will be put at ease and you will be happy with yourself.

May 07, 2012
how to answer
by: Anonymous

I always say I have two sons one left before me to meet the Father and is preparing for when I get there to be with him again. I will always have two sons, the only difference is that one left his physical body and I can not touch, smell,hug, make him his favorite food, but I still have two sons.
may you find peace and comfort during this difficult time.

May 07, 2012
Always 3
by: Anonymous

You will always have 3 children, just that one does not live on this earth anymore.

May 07, 2012
dans mom
by: Anonymous

i lost my only child ronnie i always answer one.idont tell people he has passed away unless they ask more questions about him. im sorry for your loss. i will say a prayer for you.

May 07, 2012
you have three children
by: Colleen

You will always have three children Dan will always be your son. I lost my oldest son to angiosarcoma (rare cancer of heart) he was only sick 18 days and died in our home. I have three other sons, so I will always have 4 sons.
Prayers with you, i know it is still very hard

May 07, 2012
Dans Mom
by: April

Dear Dans Mom,

I lost my son, Austin, June 22, 2012. When someone asks me that question I always answer, 2 sons. I have another son, Aaron, that is 4 years older that Austin. Just because they aren't here on earth with us doesn't mean we didn't have them and they aren't still our children. That may seem wierd to someone that hasn't lost a child, but I think it makes sense to most of us that have.
XOXO April

May 07, 2012
I love you Jimmy.
by: A mom

Do as I do, My oldest son passed a yr ago on 5/5. He was in a motorcycle accident. I still and always will have 3 children. One is in heaven. He was only 34 too. No one can take that away from us. Three beautiful children we will always have. My thoughts are with you. I know your pain. Pain which no one should ever have to bear. Jimmy's mom forever....

May 07, 2012
How many children do you have
by: Judi

I had four and I will always have four even though I lost my son Keith in 2003. He was my second child and still is. I lost his father last July and know that they are both waiting for me. Keith was a gentle person and loved family. Every holiday I think more about him and his love for each holiday. You now have an angel son who watches over you and waits for you. Enjoy your three children for who they are and were.

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