Dark clouds

by Jan

Two years ago, my mother fell and broke her hip. She was 88, but still so active. She never recovered from the surgery and after two horrible months of suffering, she died. For the next two years, my dad endured such grief, having been married for 68 years. He was going pretty well, had a very healthy 100 year old "girlfriend," and was till camping with us and riding his motorcycle. Last September, he was riding to the mall to walk with friends when he was hit by a hit and run driver. We took him off life support that afternoon. The person was arrested, and recently pled guilty to criminal vehicular homicide. My father was laid to rest with full military honors. In October, my mother in law developed an infection, and after four days in the hospital, she also died. We buried her in November. I have been doing pretty well, and made the decision to retire in January from a job I really loved. That was also a loss of sorts, as I very much enjoyed the team i worked with. Three weeks after I retired, my sister in law called me to tell me she was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer. She has a married son and daughter and 3 beautiful little granddaughters. I cannot believe that my family is facing yet another tragic situation, and it feels like I cannot get the ground back under my feet. I found this site, and thought I would share my story. I am married, have a married son and a darling little 18 month old grandson.

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Feb 21, 2014
Dark Clouds
by: Doreen UK

Jan I am so sorry for all the losses in your life and the dark clouds that surround you now your sister has been diagnosed with lung cancer. It seems so unfair when you face so many tragedies all at one time with little recovery between each loss. You must feel so angry over the loss of your father through someone's carelessness. This was a senseless death due to reckless careless driving. It is also a scary place to be when tragedies keep coming.
I lost my husband of 44yrs. 21 months ago to Lung cancer caused by working with Asbestos. He worked with a deadly substance in the workplace that caused the fibres of asbestos to lodge in his lungs and takes between 40-60 years to develop into an inoperable, incurable, aggressive malignant terminal tumour. Just imagine walking around for 40yrs, with this deadly life sentence on your life and not knowing it.
I feel vulnerable to loss and pray to God I don't lose any of my 5 siblings or even any of my 3 Adult children. My only control is to offer everyone to God and rely on His Safety and Protection over them all. This is something we can do for ourselves and our loved ones. To cover them by offering them to God for His Protection. God is the only person to take away our Dark Clouds and intervene in our sorrow and loss and to bring us His Peace and Healing despite the outcome.

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