Darrell Ray Lyons (3/18/59 to 1/22/11)

by Gayle Lyons



~Darrell Ray
How can I possibly tell all the good things about you in this tiny space? The only thing I CAN do is fill this space with memories of what you did to me, for me... Things that bring a smile to my face and make my heart feel not so heavy...

You were my only "true" love. You taught me what love is. You showed me what Heaven on earth can be like. You called me your "princess" and treated me as such. You handled me gently, like I was made of glass. You held my hand, and my heart. You wrapped your arms around me and I could feel the love pour out of you and fill me with something so complete, I feel like part of me died with you. You took my breath away when you kissed me. You taught me how to love myself. You told me every night how beautiful and smart I was, until I finally believed it. You called me "pretty girl." You led me to God, through you I learned how to pray and how to have faith. You took a broken girl and made her a whole woman. You showed me a world I would have never known. You took care of me. You protected me. You spoke for me when I couldn't speak for myself. You said I "saved" you, but really, you "saved" me.

You made me a wife. You made me a mother. You gave me 2 BEAUTIFUL children. You loved them more than life itself. You gave and gave until there was nothing left of you to give. Even after you are gone people still take from you, like you owe them something.

The last message I got from you was, "I am counting on you to help me, I know you are the only one that cares about me." You were right... I would have helped you, I DID care, I LOVED you! I STILL LOVE YOU! I will carry you in my heart until the day I die, my love, my life, my husband, my BEST friend.
~Darrell Ray Lyons

The hope I had for our future on earth is gone, but I will meet you in Heaven. I will jump into your arms and let you "catch me" like you used to... I will do as I promised and tell our babies good things about you. They will be surrounded with pictures/videos/memories. Even though they are 3 and 4 years old, I will NEVER let them forget their "Daddy."

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Feb 25, 2011
Darrell memorial
by: M Mack

I am so sorry for your loss. Your memorial to him is beautiful and I'm sure he is dancing with the angels. We never know why God takes wonderful people from us but I suspect he needs them for something greater. Listen to your heart and use the love you have for Darrell to gain strength and guidance. Take care of yourself, your children and know he is watching over all of you. Writing helps and feel free to vent whenever you need to. You are not alone in your grief journey. Prayers and support are on the way.

Feb 24, 2011
To those who commented
by: Gayle

Thank you all SO MUCH for kind words. I do believe that God is going to lead me to where I need to be (when and how is not yet so clear).

I agree that the pain is "raw" right now and fresh. I have said several times that "I wonder why I am not crying." Why can't I grieve?" "Did I not care like I thought I did?" But I realize that I may be numb or in shock right now. Maybe if I could really "feel" this loss, it would kill me too.

I was glad that one of you was talking about a similar experience... That now the real trauma is setting in months later... It is almost like right now, he is just "away" somewhere... Seems like I just talked to him yesterday...

Anyway, take care of yourselves as well! I know we all have came here for the same reason, we need the support. GOD SPEED!

Feb 24, 2011
I am so sorry for your loss
by: Judy

I am so sorry about your loss ... We lost our love one on the same day ... Someone decided to drink and drive so now my wonderful 33 year old son-in-law is gone ... I don't know what to do for my daughter or what to say to her ... It hurts me so much and I cry because he is gone, and I know she is hurting even more ... What can I do for her ... As a mother I have always been able to help her but now I am at a loss at what to do ...

Feb 24, 2011
by: Judith

What a beautiful memorial! How lucky you were to have had such wonderful things to say. If Darrell weren't floating on clouds already he would have been after reading this.

Take care and God bless you and give you peace on your difficult journey to acceptance.

Feb 24, 2011
Lost Love
by: TrishJ

Your pain is very raw right now. I lost my husband and true love on December 3, 2010. We were married for 35 years (I was only 19). I know the pain you are feeling now.

I look back on the first two months following Joe's death and it's all a blur to me. My body was on auto pilot. Now the real pain is setting in. He's not coming back. He was so ill the last two years it was nothing to have him in the hospital for 6 weeks at a time. We were blessed to spend the last 6 weeks of his life together in our home.

There are so many stages to this grief thing. I'm angry right now and I don't know what I'm angry about. Mostly angry that he's not here.
We have to know that God has a plan for us to carry on without our loves. I've been saying for the last three months that I feel like I did the day I graduated from high school. I have no idea where my life is headed next. We have to trust God to show us the way.

Be good to yourself. Pamper yourself in any way you can. Love those close to you.
God's blessings to you~

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