by Patricia Hymes
(Schenectady, NY)

Jan 2011-we had no idea

Jan 2011-we had no idea

Jan 2011-we had no idea
May 2010, the first real touch
Sept 2010-I caught the bouquet. we got engaged one month later
Aug 2011-you were sick but I will never forget the effort you made to dance with me

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Although our time together was but a blink of an eye, I am so grateful to have made your acquaintance six years ago. We were friends first and we always said that we were glad of that. We were friends until you kissed me for the first time at the end of May 2010. I remember joking (not really) that you should have kissed me long ago. I wish you had, we would have had more time together.

As I sit without you on this your 54th birthday listening to the song that will always remind me of you, I think of it as Darryl's Theme, I am remembering your last birthday. We were in Myrtle Beach, me, you, DeeDee and your grandkids thinking we had our whole lives ahead of us. We did but we were clueless about the brevity of it. i HATE that you died and left me. I feel the pain of that loss each and every day.

Yes, you are gone and I have continued to live on, but the what ifs, if onlys, the whys and on and on still haunt me.

I miss my friend most of all. We were friends first and foremost. I miss your laugh and your smile. I miss the funny way you talked with your Queens accent. I miss being sure that you and I were on the same page. I miss us and I think I always will.

You live in my heart and there you will stay NO MATTER WHAT!

Like Carol Burnett sang, "I'm so glad we had this time together, just to have a laugh or sing a song. Seems we just get started and before you know it. Comes the time we have to say so long.

So long My Love. Gone but never forgotten.

Thank you and God for your presence in my life.

Comments for DARRYL LESLIE COLEMAN JANUARY 18, 1958 - OCTOBER 18, 2011

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Nov 18, 2014
Thanks you for your comments
by: Pat

I just happened to google my name and came to this website. I don't even remember creating it. Three years have passed since Darryl died. I still miss him and think of him every day. I don't think grief ever goes away when you love someone, you just become better able to cope with it. There has been a shift within my being since Darryl died. We were not married but we shared a bond of love. I loved him very much and still do. Now I add my father to my grief, he passed away on March 1st of this year. I will say that Darryl was the only man my father actually liked. May they both watch over me. One day I will have peace surrounding my loss.

Oct 17, 2013
Two years tomorrow
by: Pat

It gets easier to deal with but the loss of what we shared still hurts. I love you.

Jun 17, 2012
Darryl I lost you Gone but not forgotton
by: Doreen England U.K.

Hi Patricia,
Thank you for telling your story and my sincere sympathies for the loss of your husband Darryl.
You had a special relationship and loved each other immensely by how you write. He was your star and now he shines brightly from somewhere in the heavens. That light will never go out and you have an amazing attitude by letting your love go and celebrating his life.
I know your heart is aching at losing Darryl and that you are trying so hard to live on as best as you can but you are sad that you have to live life now on your own as we all do who has lost a spouse. You had six years with your Darryl. I had 44yrs. with my Steve and I buried him 6 weeks ago and it hurts so much I hate each new day that comes as there is nothing to look forward to and I don't want to do anything. Steve died of cancer and I nursed him for 3 yrs. 39 days and my heart is broken at my loss of such a great man who was my heartbeat. It is so lonely now. I used to start the day with "This is the day the Lord has given let us be glad and rejoice in it." I can't say that yet as I have nothing to be glad about or rejoice. But I am thankfull that Steve is not in any pain as he died a painfull death. His medication was not strong enough and so his pain was severe.
I hope that you will have good support as you grieve the loss of your Husband Darryl and that you will be able to go on one day at a time.

Jun 17, 2012
nice tribute
by: Anonymous

I am sorry for your loss and am also still dwelling in this land of grief. It is a very nice memorial you posted and happiness and love are apparent in the photos. Thanks for sharing.

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