Dealing with first death anniversary...

How do you deal with this? I can't go to her grave because it is in another state and my mom's unveiling is not until June, even though she passed on May 2. I thought about going to the beach and releasing a balloon or journaling.

Any other ideas?

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May 03, 2011
What I did yesterday!
by: Anonymous

Yesterday did not go as planned. I went to the beach and did the balloon release, but the balloon went under the pier. I did, however, take a scenic drive along the ocean, which was very peaceful! I also tried to go to the temple to pray for my mom, but they gave me the wrong time.

May 01, 2011
Candle lighting
by: Gloria

I think that these are both lovely ideas. I won't be able to visit my Mothers grave on the date of her anniversary either and you have given me some wonderful ideas. Thank you. I haven't thought that far ahead until I read your story.

Apr 29, 2011
Candle Lighting
by: Anonymous

I'm going to light a candle, a yarzeit candle. I just wanted to know what other people do when you can't get to the gravesite.


Apr 26, 2011
Thanks for your response!
by: Anonymous

Unfortunately her gravesite is in another state so placing flowers on her grave is something I cannot do. That's why I was thinking about the balloon release.

Apr 26, 2011
It is an Emotional Day...
by: Dakota Blues

I like the idea of the beach and balloon. And, lighting a candle daily. I had read that the days leading up to our first anniversary could be more difficult than the actual day itself. I kind of agree. Everyday without our loved ones is a struggle.

My daughter is buried out-of-state, too. I started to visit a cemetery close to home. There is a young woman buried there with a headstone very similar to our daughters. Often, I will drive to this cemetery and sit there...and pray, and cry, for her family, too.

If you have family and close friends near may be nice for you to lock arms with them. Grief and anniversaries are very personal. Be extra gentle with yourself. Hugs ~~~

Apr 25, 2011
by: Anonymous

i think them are good ideas im just starting this journey my fiance died in feb. i keep a journal and another thing i do is light a candle for him everynight you could write a message on the balloon in honor of your mom. i can go to his gravesight but i still keep the journal and light the candle, i believe our loved ones are with us even when we dont go to their gravesites.

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