i found out just before Xmas last that my husband was pretty much living with another women under an assumed name.I am still in shock.After 30yrs. ...never would I have believed he could do something like this.I really trusted him but now after some real soul searching I realize there were red flags I guess I chose to ignore.Turns out he is a full on sex addict narcissis.I can hardly believe all the lies.He would tell me his trips out of town were different projects he was working on. I had no reason not to believe him.During the time away he was just a couple miles away with the other women who is 30 yrs. younger than me. I am so hurt and devastated I can't even make it through the day sometimes.ther is so much to be said but I just can't say it right now. Maybe another time.I am feeling so beaten down. I left him, of course, staying with my children for now ,going through a divorce...and feeling so homesick .How do you start over after 30yrs? And when does the pain go away?