Don't know what to do now that my dad is gone.

by Shelley
(Temecula, CA)

I lost my dad in September. I have no anger or regrets. I know my dad is in Heaven with Jesus the creator of the universe. I loved my dad greatly and though I may have only talked to him once a month or every 2 weeks the last few years. I was very close to him.

My grief comes because I do not know what to do with my life, now. I quit my job and left my home to help my mom after the passing of my dad. I always knew what I wanted in life, where I was going, what I was doing but now I don't know where to turn next.

Does anyone else have those feelings?

Thank you,

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Dec 19, 2012
Don't know what to do now that my dad is gone.
by: Doreen U.K.

Shelley. I am sorry for your loss of your dad. You have an amazng positive acceptance of this loss and very supportive to your mom.
YES! I do feel the same as you. LOST. not knowing what direction to take. This is what grief does to us. It unbalances us from where we are so that we get confused about where we want to go and what to do with our lives. Give yourself TIME to explore this. Often just a couple of sessions with a counsellor can help us with this. Some losses in our lives we can cope with and move on with no problem. We take it in our stride. But there is some losses that keep us in LIMBO for some time whilst we try to work out our grief, and what to do with our lives.`
There are no rules about what we should do or how we go on in life after a loss. For some of us Death and loss of a loved one will leave us with difficult decisions of how to go on in life. This is especially difficult for people like your mom whose grief will be different from yours. The older we are the most difficulty we will have moving on into a new life that has been forced upon us. Only in time will we find our way forward. Days we will grieve more than others.
For the wives who have lost a husband it is rather like saying "What do I do with my life now" "How do I go on! Women's lives revolve around their FAMILY which is why when the children grow up and lead an independent life. Mothers will suffer the "Empty Nest" syndrome.
Shelley you will find your way back in life and be able to find your new normal again. I wish you every success in life.

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