Dumped after 24years of marriage
by G Yates
I suspected over a year ago that something was not right in our marriage. My wife stopped having sex with me and never touched me in bed. I saw her using her mobile and holding it in a way that I couldn't see what/ who she was looking at. Whenever I tried to kiss her she always turned away, and finally she told me she didn't want to kiss me and that we should split up. We have two daughters, one 22 and the other 13.
I am now totally shattered. I had to be put on sleeping pills and anti-depressants. I am nearly always next to tears, and I have no-one to turn to. I am very lonely and feel very alone. I cannot understand how she can be so callous and devious. I am still very much in love with her but she has changed totally.
I stuck with her through thick and thin and was always a good and reliable father and husband, and I felt proud of that.
I tried to speak with her about it but she just clams up and says only that she "can't go back!". I've concluded that she never really loved me all these years, and just used me as a stop gap until she was ready to go back to her first love ...who I caught her telling that she will always love him.
I'm torn between hating her and loving her.
The ironic thing is that another woman loves me dearly and is desperate for me to be with her. But I dont love her.
I would dearly appreciate an overview from your readers, and any advice/suggestions would be greatly appreciated. BY THE WAY she is 48 and I am a very fit and youngish 69. I am a pro musician.