Ex husband has moved on with a much younger woman

My ex husband and I got divorced in April of this year, with things becoming final in May. He had issues with me taking girlfriend trips (just found this out) but he was having company dinners that he would stay out til 1 or 2 in the morning.

Fast forward 2 months.... He now will not admit that he is in love with a new girl (even though I heard a message where she was telling him that she loved and missed him). He is 49, she is 31 (they work for the same company, in the same position but different areas .... Hince, the late night dinners) We were married for 13 years. I asked him to tell me that there was no chance of us getting back together, but he said he couldn't say it. I asked him if he was in love with her, he wouldn't answer.

He and I have been "together" multiple times since the divorce, and I guess that is why this hits me so hard. How can he love her and constantly try to be with me? Will their relationship last? Am I holding onto hope of a relationship that will never return to me?

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Jul 31, 2013
Ex husband has moved on with a much younger woman
by: Doreen U.K.

Your Ex Husband has DOUBLE STANDARDS. It is O.K. for him to do what he is doing but not you. It seems there is one rule for him and one for you.
Take yourself off to a counsellor and get a few sessions going to strengthen you and build up your self esteem which takes a battering after a divorce. Try and Resolve issues in counselling for yourself in case your EX doesn't come back you will have the confidence to re-structure your life.
You are not doing yourself any favours by letting your EX see You and this other girl. He won't commit to a relationship this way. You are making it too easy for him to decide. If he chooses this other girl at least you will know where his heart lies. Relationships like this will have their own problems. Just make sure he doesn't come back to you. There is nothing worse than feeling USED. You can build a new life for yourself and be happy again but if you stay with the counselling you won't take the old problems into a new relationship. You can do this. It is no use crying over a man who wants to move on with his life without you. This is so painful, but once you gave gathered your dignity together you will find Peace.

Jul 29, 2013
So Move With Your life.
by: Judith in California

Please respect yourself and stop " Being Together" with a man that obviously doesn't respect you or his marrigae vows. You're only setting yourself up for more hurt when you do that. He willk BE with whoever can rock his boat at the time. HE will not respond to your question because he is hoping to keep you on a sting if this current girl doesn't work out. Dump him to the curb a nd never see him again . And Please ,since he left you for someone else and divorced you, find out why you would want a person who would treat you i such a manner. He obviously has no character as a man. You really don't need that kind of man/boy in your life.
So Move With Your life and find a better person to share your best days with.


Jul 29, 2013
HEAVE HO
by: Anonymous

THROW THIS MAN OUT OF YOUR BED AND OUT OF YOUR LIFE. HE HAS ILLUSTRATED TO YOU THAT HE IS NOT TRUSTWORTHY BY SNEAKING AROUND ON YOU ONCE AND HE CERTAINLY WILL AGAIN SINCE THERE HAS BEEN NO CONSEQUENCE TO HIM. IN FACT HE NOW HAS TWO LADIES VYING FOR HIS ATTENTION. YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT AND DESERVE BETTER THAN THAT. THIS GUY NEEDS AND DESERVES THE BOOT.

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