Facebook ruin my marriage
I muster the courage to write what began as any typical morning of the month of October 2012. Woke up did the usual preperation to go to work. Kiss my beautiful wife of 26 years who was always there good or bad. She is a wonderful soul that any person she talks to felt peace from her. We have 4 grown children and still occupy the roof we live in.As work progress I got a text from from my wife hysterically not making sense from her texting. After a few I understood the last one. Our daughter found your laptop open with your facebook page open and unexpliciit message to other woman.my heart literally stop for a while as hopped in my car and head to where she was. I approached the place only to find her surrounded by friends caressing her from all angles. As I approach closer I see her in a stage of what looks like a person that was just told that a family member died. I felt sick to my stomach. What have I done. She approach me yelling, questing why I did what I wrote on facebook. Her words. " why did you do this? I gave you my life. I gave you four wonderful children I cooked clean your clothes. Why? Why?". This was just the beginning of our downhill slide of our beautiful marriage. I left for a few days but she insist I come back. We drank constantly. We fought everyday and our children are impacted by this tragedy..so as s few months passed with constantly pouring my apologies hoping she would a least try forgive me. Another couples months passed as she worked evening shifts. As hours and hours passed after her shift she did not return till early hours of the morning. Asking where she was she told me. My coworkers and I went to the bar. This would continue for at least 3 months during the cold winter nights..I worry for her safety and health. Eventually things began to look brighter after one morning she came home walking drunk. She told me her vehicle was in the ditch and crashed into a brush. She woke with a headache and that really scared her of what had happen that night. After a few days she promised our youngest son she won't drink anymore. I was happy and we ended elimatiing the alcohol for 1 year. We eventually went on trips during the summer months of 2014. There were stages where she collapse to depressing. She constantly text friends but I know in my heart it was male friends she met when she start going out the winter months of November to April of 2013. I tried to ignore the situation cause
I was the cause of her heartache. she did eventually move to her sisters in June. After get together a and a few family trips what assume we're happy occasion on her behalf. We came home on the last trip only to argue about her texting and she went to her sister only to find out the next day she went out with friends and a male friend. As I write this story I'm at home with my kids and she's been out drinking partying and staying with this male friend who is 10 years younger than her. She is 44 and I'm 49. The result of her heartache is I offered these 2 female family members of her cash for favors. Why? Cause I misued facebook to my advantage not thinking about the consequecse of my beautiful family. I love my wife but she said she wants to move on but when's she's intoxicated. And continues to mention she wants what we had once again. I told her over and over again I'm here with open arms. I had quit alcohol for months now but she is still out there weekends. I worry about her a lot and my kids keep telling me to let go and move on but I can't because I care and worry about her welfare and health.