Fatal Car Accident Kills the Mother of 4 children
My Mom and I. I miss you so much.
Losing my Mom.. It's hard not to cry even typing about it. I'll let you know a little bit of what happened.. if your interested great, if not, no worries. It was the weekend of September 9th, 2012. My mom, her partner Lea, my two twin sisters, and my little cousin Tori were in Chicago celebrating my sisters 13th birthday.I was supposed to be there that weekend to get a new car my mom had just surprised me with. Unfortunately I didn't have the funds to go.
I got the call around 5 that Sunday from my cousin Chelsea, my Aunt kara was on the phone who I never talk to .. and I could tell something was wrong.. she said "Lauren theres been an accident." Instantly, I panicked, started crying, and she told me everyone was accounted for but my mom. Lea was airlifted to the hospital, and my cousin and sisters were rushed by ambulance. Instinctively, I had hope that my Mom was alive... I called my Aunt Kelly maybe 20 minutes later and I asked her if she had seen my mom because she was at the hospital. Thats when I got the news... Sunday the 9th they were on the way home, about 45 minutes outside of Mount Pleasant... a man whose wife and 12 year old daughter were behind him following and he lost control of his truck, crossed the two yellow lines, and hit my family head on. The car rolled at least 5 times... My mother was killed on impact. The man was as well. Everyone else, suffered minor injuries except Lea. Leas entire femur was shattered, she had brain bleeding that miraculously healed itself, and internal bruising. Other than that everyone was ok.
In my entire life I have never experienced weeping, on your knees begging God to take it away, bring her back, wake you up from the nightmare.. anything please God... Since I left Michigan that summer a few years back, my Mom and I have grown closer than EVER. She was my best friend, we spoke on the phone everyday, never argued, laughed, cried, Facetimed (lol), she was like the best friend I had always had.. but never knew. She was my whole world. last July she and my sisters and lea, and my cousin Tori surprised me in my apartment here in Memphis, and redecorated my ENTIRE home top to bottom beautifully. Thats the last time I saw her, the last time I hugged her, the last time I felt the touch only a mother can give, the comfort only a mother can give, and realizing I'll never have that again.. breaks my f--king heart. excuse my french.
I came home for the funeral of course and stayed for about a month, a month I can hardly remember. Mostly because I was responsible for everything. As a "single" mother legally, her gay relationship is not recognized.. so the funeral arrangements. my decision. the death certificate..cremation.. legal stuff.. everything.. my responsibility. Down to the outfit she wore. That was the most difficult of all, having to take on all of the responsibilities of planning
I have my good days, I have more bad days, but I know one day I will see her again. I remember on the trip she was here, I asked her "There's nothing like the love from a mother is there?" She said, "No and you'll realize one day when you have kids." Words I will carry forever with me