Feel So Lost Without My Mom

by Maria
(San Jose, CA, USA)

January 26th, 2014 I lost my mom. She was 89yrs old but had been on dialysis for the last 6 or 7 yrs. It’s been 3 wks
already since she’s gone to Heaven but I feel so lost without her.

I was so busy helping my dad being the strong one in the family taking care of the arrangements, taking phone calls, dealing with life insurance, and now that everything has calmed down it’s really starting to hit me and I don’t know how to handle it. My husband is there for me, but he still has his mom and he’s trying to be supportive but he just doesn’t know.

They say you’re supposed to go through an Anger staged, but it seems like I can’t because I thank GOD that I had my mom for 53 yrs of my life and I was there when she passed away. I know I have to rely especially on my Faith because I do believe that will see me through anything, but it’s easier said than done, but I feel like I need to be strong and it’s starting to take its’ toll on me. I just wished that she could have woken up 1 last time so I could tell her that I love her so much.

She left behind a loving husband of 54 yrs, mother of 6, grandmother of 14, great grandmother of 5 & she never thought that she would be a great grandmother & her youngest is 3 ½ months. My mom was a foster parent, always taking care of everyone, especially my dad. She knew how to save money because growing up we always went on vacations.

I know time will ease the pain, but for now it’s just too much for me to handle. Mornings and nighttime’s are hard to handle, but even here at work my emotions just overwhelm me as well when I’m driving home. I just want to hold my mom 1 more time and tell her that I love her and miss her so, so much!

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Feb 27, 2014
feel so lost
by: Anonymous

I too lost my mum last year. My mum was 83 and in poor health.people tell me she was a great age and that I should be grateful I had her so long. I feel lost and bereft with out her. Like you I just want to hug her and talk to her once more.
They say time heals but it is a slow process and the loss of a mother is all consuming. I hope you find peace in time please be gentle with yourself. I hope you have friends who can support you at this time.Therese

Feb 23, 2014
lost without my mom
by: Anonymous

Marie sorry for your loss I can't say I know how you feel because everybody is different it takes time, that I know for sure, that hole in your heart now it will get smaller but you will always have that small scar it gets better I still miss my mom I lost mine when I was 3 and at times I still get a tear in my eye when I think that I only had three years and that was 74 years it gets better hang in there

Feb 22, 2014
So sorry for your loss.
by: sonya mcknight

Hi i am so sorry for your loss.

I lost my mum in jan 2012 and it is still raw now as it was back then.

I feel your pain also it is hard but you are grieving and it is a process and a journey but when you are ready look up the stages of grief and when the time is ready for you to go through them and when you do you will feel blessed and comforted like me.

I am doing that right now to it does not ever take the pain away that you are feeling but if you work through them then it means you will be in control of your grief instead of the grief taking over you and the grief controlling you.

Hope this helps you.

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