For My Mother--1912-2012

Oh, Mother, I'm facing John's death. As I write this he struggles to breathe in the hospital. I don't think he will be coming home again. We knew this day was coming ever since his diagnosis, but now that it's here, I can't bear it. And you're gone, too. My world seems so empty. It would be so much easier to bear if I could see you and talk to you again. How I miss our gab fests. You understood everything--and even agreed with me--you were a wonderful supporter. I want to ask you if my Poodie is with you. Our beautiful boy, so young still, so many years left. He loved you so much--remember how he defended you against strangers? I hope he is with you and you both are well again and able to romp and play together. Soon John will join you. Take care of each other and don't forget that I love you. I know this is a fantasy. I know I'll never see any of you again. It's a dream letter and yet it makes me feel closer to you. Kiss my Poodie on his nose. Tell him I miss my 'Noser.'

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May 27, 2014
For My Mother..........
by: Elisa

For My Mother,

My mother was born in 1913 a year before your Mom, and she died in 2011, and when I was eulogizing her, this wonderful mother, who had Alzheimer's and didn't know me for a good part of the 12 years she had the illness, I never in my wildest thoughts would face my husband's death a year later. I lost my Dad first, then my Mom, and then my dear husband of 44 years to that horrific cancer they call pancreatic neuroendocrine tumor with its spread to his liver and then all over.

That night he died in my arms, he was clinging to life. I decided he was trying to hold for me, he was worried about me being without him, and rightfully so, I am totally lost, heartbroken and never to be the same again; and so yes, I decided to let him go by telling him I'd be OK (sure), and to go to God, to the light, to my Mom & Dad, etc. Right after my last word to him, he stopped breathing, right on cue.

I miss him more and more each day, and I know I will never, ever stop grieving. I pray we will be reunited in God's Heaven; yet, I will admit that some days I waiver from that belief.

So, you have walked the same sad path I tread on, losing my Mom and then my husband, who by the way was vibrant, smart, strong, and his diagnosis was a shock, with no signs of this terrible cancer.

God bless, and I believe that Doreen, U.K. says it so well.

Jan 17, 2014
For my mother
by: Doreen UK

Dear Anonymous, YES! I do believe that I will see my loved one's again. But this is according to how one believes. Many of us are fortunate to have had perhaps an upbringing in strong Christian values and a belief system that helps us know how we have been created. How we Live and to know that we will all die as a result of living in a fallen sinful world. But God knew this and so sent his Son Jesus Christ to die for us so that we can have eternal life and to have it more abundantly.
Many people sadly have legalistic routes and so believe they have to do something in order to be accepted by God. They don't know you simply come as you are with all your baggage and give it to God and let him into one's heart and let Him change us into what he wants us to become so that we can Live and Reign with Him forever and ever. But this is according to one's Faith. Many of us who believe have a responsibility to comfort other's with these words so that they also may have HOPE. Encouragement, and strength to go on in Life and after we lose our loved ones. God says you will have sorrows. BUT. Don't sorrow as those who have no Hope. We will fail every day due to sin. But we come to God. Repent and God will Live out HIS LIFE in us. The work is of God. We simply stay connected to God as a light bulb is connected to an electric source in order for the light to work. It is this simple. Many people can find freedom and Comfort in God. WE continue to have turbulence in life. But knowing who is our Source of Strength is important. This is where we find release from our sorrow.

Jan 16, 2014
For My Mother --1912-2012
by: Doreen UK

I am so sorry you are about to lose your husband and finding it very hard at this last stage of his life. This is the most difficult place to be trying to hold onto the man you love knowing he is slipping away and you can't bear it.
I faced this same battle 20 months ago when I lost my beloved husband of 44yrs. to a deadly terminal cancer, I nursed him for over 3yrs. and had to watch him die slowly as I cared for him. This was the worst place to be as I looked into his sad face clinging to life knowing it would soon be over and feeling how unfair it was. He was calm at the end embracing what he could not change and humbled himself to accept his life was slipping away. He pulled my head down to his whilst unable to talk and this was him saying good-bye. I didn't know it at the time. But he died later that day. I grieved the day we got the difficult news that he had the most incurable and inoperable lung cancer caused by working with asbestos. I feel your pain and you are in the rawest stage of end of life. Hold on to HOPE. Knowing your husband will be at Peace ordained of God and He will rise again to meet you when Jesus comes back for us as He Promised. HOLD ON! HOLD ON! We die because we live in a sinful world that will soon pass away one day and a new kingdom of righteousness will be resurrected where Jesus will reign forever and ever, and those who love Him will reign with Him. This is the Hope that keeps me going. May God draw close to you and hold you as you cry, and he takes your husband home. May God comfort you and give you His Peace.

Jan 16, 2014
For my mother
by: Anonymous

Do you honestly believe you will never see your loved ones ever again? That is the only Thing that gets me out of bed each morning is that I will be reunited with my 22 year old daughter.

Jan 16, 2014
For my mother
by: Anonymous

I remember reading once, a mothers death is the first we face alone. But she will always live in your heart. God bless you during these challenging days ahead and may the memories of your loved ones give you the strength to carry on.

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