Forever Stephanie's mother
My grief is new..."raw" as others call it. I'm sure you all have heard it before. The words I just read above are so true. I went through all the tough parts of parenting, to have her finally get her life together, becoming successful, only to have her taken away. She died four weeks ago yesterday, at the age of 28. She went in for what was suppose to be routine back surgery to correct two herniated disks and she had a stroke the next morning and was declared brain dead. Because my husband (her dad -although not her father) is a kidney transplant recipient, we knew the only decision was to donate her organs. She helped five people live (we hope and pray) that following Saturday night by using her heart, lungs, liver and both of her kidneys. My constant prayer is that those five are not only healthy and thriving, but that one day they will want to meet me, so that they can know her. She had gotten her AA in elementary education and was working to get her BA. She loved children, and they loved her. This saddens me too because she was single, never married and longed to have a family of her own. She had always been my best friend, but she had blossomed into such a lovely young woman and at the prime of her life, that life was taken. I'm so very sad, as I'm sure all here are. I'm so grateful for anyone to listen to me talk about her. It's my duty in life now to not only promote how wonderful she was in life, but to also promote how wonderful she is in death and by her giving her gift of life, other families are not having to go through what I have. If you are not already an organ donor, please think about it now, in Her honor. Talk to your family about it, let them know your wishes before something happens. She told me everything and I knew this is what she wanted. I love her so much, and miss her everyday.