Fought cancer, but a lung infection took him

by Louise Smith

My dad smoked from an early age and unsurprisingly was diagnosed with cancer in his lungs when aged 67. What made it harder was he was also diagnosed with another primary cancer in his kidney. After having parts removed, major surgery, and chemo my dad was looking good. Would never be free of it but was doing ok. However he was prone to lung infections and the last one seemed to take it's toll. However I wasn't ready for him to go, and feel so angry that he was taken from me. I tried to be strong, but I can't cope with his loss. It's consuming my every waking hour when I am not throwing myself into anything else. I don't know how to move forward, so angry that my dad was taken.

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Mar 25, 2013
Allow the tears
by: Faye


I understand grief having been there and want to say that I understand your anger also at having lost your father too soon.

I suggest that you trust the feelings that are up in the moment and give them what they want. Cry as much as your body wants to. Express your anger by screaming into a pillow, in the car, under water or punching, kicking or whatever your body wants to do to express itself. A grief counselor could also offer much needed support at this time. Google, grief support groups in your area.

My husband was 118 lbs stage 4 cancer for 6 years. He had a very violent death at 48. Grieving comes in waves. Just allow the feelings to flow and trust the process. I know it feels like it will always feel like this but it doesn't.

A homeopathic remedy can also be helpful at this time. Find a good Naturopath or homeopath.


Jul 30, 2012
Fought cancer,but a lung infection took him
by: Josette

My dad was diagnosed with a lung cancer. He had radiotherapy and was fine. After 6 months he had to have chemotherapy as there was a small shadow on his other lung. Unfortunately he only had one single dose of chemo as he had a severe lung infection which eventually led to his death in only 10days. He was admitted in hospital with an infection that was supposed to go away and he never got out. I miss him dearly and I cry for him everyday, but I know he's watching us from heaven. Love you forever dad, my hero,my guardian angel.

Jul 30, 2012
You don't have to know how to move forward, but you WILL
by: Anonymous

I'm sorry you are in so much pain. We are too. I feel like you do. I'm trying to go back to work, but lose track of time and can't get anything done. I cry a lot, and lose sight of the light at the end of the tunnel even though I 'know' things will get better.
I still trust, though....and I hope you will too. I believe in the human spirit, and the natural cycle of life. We don't have to know how to progress toward peace. All we need to do is try not to prevent it from happening on its own.
Cry as much as you feel like crying. I do. One day we will feel better.

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