Four months ago i found my mom dead, it was the hardest things that i had to face. I'm still not over it, but to tell you the truth I don't think i will. Been trying to move on, but people won't let me. Everyone thinks it's too soon for me to move in with my dad. They think it would not be the right choice, but it is for me...isn't that enough? Wish they would see how much this really means to me, and how much i want to do this. Hopefully in the future they will see that this is the right choice for me. Don't think they will though...hopefully. I mean if they were my family and they did love me, wouldn't they agree with me about moving in with my dad?
As someone once said, "In the final analysis it's between you and God; it was never between you and them anyway".
Four Months by: Zoe
I am a widow. But I read this site just like all others with loss. I would not presume to tell you what is right or wrong. what I will tell you is this, grief is very personal and the grief your father is going through is very different than the grief you are enduring. Neither one is better, or bigger, just different. Perhaps your friends are worried you are Sacrificing your grief to take care of your father. Or that he is sacrificing his to take care of you... I do not know. What I do know is that you need to talk to your dad, see where he is, where you both are then make the decision. No one outside the wall of pain can truly see what you see, just make sure you are seeing it from all sides.
Do What you Need by: judith in California
This is about you.. not them. You have to do what you feel is right for you. If you move in with your Dad and it doesn't work out then you can choose to move out. It's just that simple.
Take care and you will find peace with your loss in time. One day at a time.
