From best friend to lover after her passing
by Angie Brown
(Douglasville Ga. us)
Hi, my best friend of 30 yrs. loss his wife to cancer just 7months ago! We did not see or hear from each other for about 8yrs and then out of the blue i see him on facebook and we connected again. I had no idea his long time girlfriend of 20yrs (common law wife) had been going threw hell fighting cancer. He was there for her every step of the way loving her more and more each day and when the day came when God called her home, he contacted me again to let me know she had pasted. After a month pasted he called me and we talked for what seemed like forever and the next thing i knew he was outside of my work place and needing a friend like never before. We have been together every since that day. I left my job and family and moved with him back to his home 8hrs away. It started out to be just 2 best friends helping each other threw tough times and now we live together like husband and wife. We live in the same home he bought for his wife before she pasted and now its been 5months since we have been together and i see him more and more everyday missing her. He sleeps whenever he is not working we dont go anywhere and he still has her stuff in the closet and bathroom and all over the house. He trys to get me to try her clothes on and wear her makeup and so on!!!I too now am in a state of depression where i feel like a 3rd wheel. I love him so much and always have and i dont want to be disrespectful in any way to her memory.. How do I help the man i love so much move on when he still misses and wants his loss one back? I dont want him to use me as just a body to hold at night so he can dream of her how can i help him move on. If this is disrespectful to either of them by asking for help then im sorry and really dont mean to be!!!! If someone out there can help me help him I will be forever greatful!!!