From we to me or who I am

Death has changed all of us and yes there is light at the end of the tunnel. I am not there yet, but one day I will see it. I am trying to learn who I am as ME and not as WE. I retired almost a year ago come the 29th of April. Spent 20 years of my life doing accounts payable. I decided that I need to go back to work to occupy my time, but only part time and not back into accounting because I... do not want the pressure. I want to make a difference in someone"s life. I want to be able to help them live a better life. I am not sure what direction my life will take but if I can make one life better then I have done something good for someone. Life is to short. I want to do something for others where I can make a difference.

These are quotes from a book I finished reading today "The Light at the End of the Tunnel". "When your spouse dies, many people want to be supportive, but they don't know what to do or what to say. And they think that by not discussing it, they are helping you "go on." What they do not realize is that you really need to be able to talk about it. Putting it away is kind of like throwing away the person you've lost...people need to let you have your memories and deal with your loss" by Shanna Hugie. Another one which rang so true is "I guess you could sum up my philosophy of life in this quote: "Yesterday is history; tomorrow is a mystery; today is a gift; that why it's called the present." by Gerry Werner.

I know that I will get there someday. I am not sure when. Time is but a thing as we try to endure this journey none of us ever wanted.

"Give us time Lord to find our way. We are like lost sheep. Only time will help us through this journey and our faith in you, Lord. Be patient and kind with all of us, including our children who are lost. They to are trying their best. They may seem angry but it is the only emotion that they have right now. Do not be angry with them as they are learning to come to grips with the death of their father/mother.

I know life is not fair. We must learn to be and it is not an easy one. May we all be able to look back and say with confidence, "I would not be here if it was not for the Grace of God."

Watch over my family tonight and keep them safe. Take special care of Jim and let him know I miss him everyday. My life is no longer complete. I will move on and with your guidance, do what you have planned for me. You and you alone knows what the future may hold. I trust your wisdom and your guidance.

Amen.


One Breath, One Step and One Day At A Time is all we can do.

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Apr 21, 2012
We to me
by: M Mack

Thank you for your beautiful post. I thought I knew who I was but now I'm learning who I am. I'm not the same person but I am beginning to know and like myself. Through my grief journey, I'm am more tolerant, understand what true love is and see through life without judging. Life is full of curves and I am getting the hang of it 21 months after loosing my soulmate.
There is light at the end of the tunnel. Take care and prayers that we all endure with love and light.

Apr 21, 2012
We to me
by: M Mack

Thank you for your beautiful post. I thought I knew who I was but now I'm learning who I am. I'm not the same person but I am beginning to know and like myself. Through my grief journey, I'm am more tolerant, understand what true love is and see through life without judging. Life is full of curves and I am getting the hang of it 21 months after loosing my soulmate.
There is light at the end of the tunnel. Take care and prayers that we all endure with love and light.

Apr 20, 2012
From we to me
by: Pat J.

What a beautiful post; exactly what I have been saying lately; I was we, but now it's just me. I was married 46 years when my husband died and he was in my life since I was 15. Never did I ever realize how much I would miss him. My children tell me I lived my life for my husband; now it's time to live my life; easier said than done.
Red, my husbands nic name, and everyone called him that, real name Leonard, died on June 27th 2011, the day after our 46th wedding anniversary. He had a massive heart attack. He had the perfect death they say; but it's sure not a perfect life for me.
I am taking it one day at a time. I am working part time; planned on retiring, but with Red gone, I need to get out the house and be with people. I work everyday, but only 4 hours a day. Somedays I just want to crawl in a shell and stay home, but I don't and I know my husband wouldn't want me to.
Thank you for the encouraging words. God is carrying all of us in our journey of grief. I keep saying, I am faking it until I can make it and one day I will make it. Now it is just one day at a time.

Apr 20, 2012
Thank You
by: Rose L

I lost my daughter last year and you put into words what is in my heart.
I volunteer to do fundraising through my Jewelry business and that helps me a great deal. I work for a great company with no pressure and a lot of the profits go to charity so I am doubly blessed. Feel free to email me privately-
rgmiramonti@sbcglobal.net
Blessings,
Rose

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