Me and my family were having a normal day ,myself ,my husband and our beautiful little girl all got ready for a normal day ,my loving husband had planned a great day out with out little girl and our nephew at a sealife centre at Edinburgh ,that was the last time i saw my husband ,we said see you tonight before i went to work ,then 2 hours after starting i got a phone call at work to say he had collapsed ,remembering he is only 41yrs while changing my little girls nappy he collapsed of a massive heart attack ,my life was in ruins ,that was nearly 4yrs ago now and im still in bits ,we were together for over 20yrs ,i just wanted to right this note because i still love him more than ever and always will !!!!!!!!!!

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Mar 03, 2012
I know...
by: Anonymous

I wish I knew exactly how to get past the hurt and loneliness. It was 2 years in Dec. for me. As I head into year 3 I wonder will this melencholy and loneliness always be part of who I am?

I have made great strides. Some days the sun shines and so do I. The thing is for the most part I can embrace this new life and have gotten used to doing things my way. Not that I like being the "Man of the house" I enjoyed being cared for having someone strong to depend on. And of course having a best friend, Lover and husband.

It is what it is, and perhaps that is why heading into the 3rd year is so difficult. So I will try new things to make who I am more comfortable but I know I will always Miss and Love My Love. It is part of who I was and who I am now...

Mar 02, 2012
by: Janet

I am sorry for your loss. Grief has no time limit. Each of us grieve differently and some move on better than others. It has only been 4 months and 3 days since I lost my Jim very unexpectedly in Belize.

Some days are better than others and some or worse. I just try to take one breath, one step and one day at a time. I had retired and he was finally on disability. We were able to do things that we had never done before. We got our passports last March and spent 3 wonderful months in Corozal, Belize C.A. He feel in love with it and we decided that was where we wanted to retire to. He returned in September and I joined him in October only to lose him 14 days after I arrived. Unfortunately that is not going to happen and I am still trying to understand why he was taken so suddenly from me and why I must travel this long journey. My faith in the Lord is the only thing that keeps me going at this point and knowing that my husband would want me to move on with my life and be happy.

Time is all we have and the only thing that we can do going forward for them is to remember them, the good and the not so good, and take one breath, one step, one day at a time. May God bless you and hold your safe in the palm of his hands. He is there for us even when we think he is not there.

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