Gone But Never Forgotten

by Quanisha
(North Carolina)

I was just 8 years old when we lost our grandam. I had to watch it happen everyday for the last year of her life. She had pancreitis and she received sores on her leg and had to have it removed. She spent the most of her time in a wheelchair. I knew she was going i just couldn't accept it. I never really dealt with the grief and to this very day i miss her. I wish she were here with me. I remember i was outside playing and an hour ago i had just been inside wiht her. My mom and dad sent us over to our neighbors house to watch movies and when i came back, they told me she had died. She died in the room i spent loads of time in . The place i ran to when i was scared. She was my rock and my guardian angel.Not a day goes by that i don't miss her. I still remember her smile and her laugh. I still remember everything about her and as times goes on i find my self going back to my younger days. I wish she could be here to see me graduate, but i know that she is always watching over me. I love you very much grandma and miss you R.I.P. June 13, 2004.

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Dec 12, 2012
Gone But Never forgotton
by: Doreen U.K.

Quanisha I am sorry for your loss of your grandma in 2004. A very significant part or your life now gone. You are now feeling this loss so much as you are older now probably around 16yrs. of age. You were so very young to bear the burden of grief and I suppose your parents sending you over to the neighbours whilst your grandma died was their way of protecting you and your siblings from this grief. Parents are coping with grief and so are caught up in this they forget how the children feel. Little do parents realise how this can create a casm in the family and this is the time that children start distancing themselves from their family and become a LONER or a RECLUSE. This is sad but very much a part of the fabric of life that it still exists and nothing will change until children start speaking out and asking questions. I hope the ones that do get the answers they need to help them function and get through life and the death issues that are also a part of life. If dealt with correctly we would have a better society. But we don't live in a perfect world so we each have to do our best to resolve our grief even if it means going out on a limb on our own to see a grief counsellor. This would be a very wise and mature thing to do for one's self. Just getting this area right could save a lot of pain down the line for us in life and we would integrate better into a new way of life without our loved one being around. Quanisha it is good for you to have these good memories of your grandma. This is your history and each person needs to know their family line. You are suffering delayed repressed grief. You may want to see a grief counsellor to help support you through your turbulent feelings. When this is repressed only a counsellor who is trained can dig up what is buried to help us move forward better from our grief. You will also learn coping skills to take you through any more grief you may go through in Life.

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