Gone Too Soon


My mama passed away on May 14, 2014. She was 60. I miss her so much. I have so many what ifs and if you had tried this that goes through my head constantly. My mom was in the ICU for 2 weeks. She was a wonderful Christian lady. The night she got sick she sang in a church service and gave a testimony and said if she dies that night she was not afraid to die. She was in a coma and woke up and talked to us on Mothers Day. She slipped back into a coma and died 3 days later. I just don't know how to begin to deal with the grief. I have 2 daughters 13 and 8. I can't believe she won'tbe here to wwatch them grow up. I've heard it gets easier with time. I guess we will see.

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Jun 17, 2014
Am with you in your grief
by: Jan P

My mom just passed away on May 5th, 2014 of ovarian cancer. She was diagnosed May, 2013 given 3 to 6 months. We were very lucky to have 1 year with her. My mother was very Catholic/Chrstian. I myself am a 50/50 Catholic but I do know my mother put her faith in God for many things and he has provided her his guiding hand through all of it. I have had to put my faith in God and as hard as it has been, it has given me some of the peace I did not think I could find. Talking about it to people does help. I can finally talk about it without getting all teary eyed. I am sure your mother gave you many gifts as my mother gave me so hang onto those and pass them to your family. It will honor your mother.
Remember, your mother would want you to live. It will always be okay to laugh, cry, remember for her.

May 30, 2014
Gone Too Soon
by: Doreen UK

The "What if's" and "If only's" seem to be the benchmarks of the assault grief has on us after losing our loved one's it is almost always part of the symptoms of death. This should pass in time. But it hurts so much. Our family is important to us and when one suffers it tears us apart. Every experience from losing loved one's is different. But the loss of a mother is one of the worst because of the bond a mother has with her children and also the connection a mother has carrying her child and then nurturing them through life. How does one recover from this loss? Only ONE DAY AT A TIME can help us move forward.
I lost my mother 11yrs. ago, but my worst loss was losing my husband to cancer 2yrs. ago. I am still having such bad grief from how he suffered. We just go through the motions of grief. WE can do little to speed up the process of healing. It happens naturally over the years. The one part of not having our mother's with us is that they will miss out on all the good times with their grandchildren. It will take time for us to heal totally from all our hurt and pain of losing our loved one's.

May 30, 2014
by: Sabrina

Thank you Barb. My mother's name was Barb also.

May 29, 2014
Be kind to yourself.
by: Paula

I'm really sorry to hear about your mom.
I understand where you are. I lost my Dad last August, I thought I would die from the pain. I couldn't function at all for months, just did what I had to do to get by. But slowly I'm crawling back and so will you. Allow yourself time to grieve, it will get a tiny bit easier to bear every day. A lot of things that helped me was a group, books about losing someone, talking to and being with people that have been through it, and staying away from those who do not get what you are going through. Be kind to yourself on this long, painful journey.

May 29, 2014
Dear Tennessee,
by: Anonymous

I am sorry to read about your mother. I know how much it hurts, and how awful it is to lose a parent. I lost my father last year, and not a day goes by that I don't think about him. It has gotten easier for me, as time passes, and I can reflect on the love and memories I have. I feel his presence with me, and I take some comfort in that. You are just beginning this sad, sad journey. I hope you will find comfort on this website and read all of the posts that people write. You will find that even though we are spread all over the globe, there is a strong connetion here, and it really does help. I have gotten through some very tough days from coming here and reading. Wishing you peace, Barb

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