Goodbye my Hero

by Manuel
(Blantyre, Malawi)

It was last weekend (28th June) when I last saw my father smile last. It was a normal saturday with my dad and mum, we were all together, he was shot in cold blood right in front of my eyes by armed robbers. I really don't know how to explain it, but this has scared me for life.. Heck I'm only 20 for Gods sake, now I've been pitted with this task of looking after my 2 younger siblings and my mother. My dad wasn the greatest dad, but he gave us everything, now all that went with him, source of income and security, I honestly don't know how I'm meant to pick up where he left off when I have no job and I'm still in shock at his passing. I know they say God always has a plan, but its killing me that I won't live up to his expectations of me..

Any helpful advice is appreciated.

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Jul 08, 2014
Goodbye my Hero
by: Doreen UK

Manuel what a tragic and senseless murder of your father. These are early days and you won't be able to think clearly. TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME. This is the only way forward. We all feel overwhelmed when the breadwinner dies. Our first normal thoughts are "How am I going to manage and go on with life now." It is normal to worry when the income has gone and you are faced with how you are going to survive. You are 20yrs. and still young. Get support from your Church and seek the wisdom from the older generation e.g. a Pastor or Elder. You need support. You cannot handle this immense problem all by yourself. In some cultures the Males take over the care of the family. But you must also look to your extended family for support. We all have our limitations. A mistake would be for you to take on the whole problem. It would make you ill. You need to put a plan together about how you are going to manage. I don't know if you have good Social Services and how supportive they are? Your mother would probably take up some work in order to feed her family. You can be supportive but at the same time not taking on the total responsibility. You may look to the elders in your extended family also for support. The financial difficulties will be the most challenging to deal with. You don't have to put your life on hold. If you plan well you can do both. I don't know what life is like in your part of the world? and what your structure is like within the context of your culture? Just don't isolate yourself with these difficulties. Keep close to God and seek His guidance and wisdom in how to move forward. Get good support for yourself so that you don't dig yourself into a hole and feel as if these difficulties will now swallow you up, as they can do at times for many people. You will also grow stronger from every difficulty you overcome. Don't give up Hope! Please write back if you need to for more support.

Jul 07, 2014
goodbye my Hero
by: Jane

I am so sorry what happend do your father Manuel. I can unterstand your thinking and scare for the time it comes. I understand it so good, because I am not just lost my dear Mom, I lost the place we live, the doctor does not alout me to go to work, my whole life is broken. And like you, I don´t understand Gods plan. I only can say, I am feeling so much with you, but sorry, I don´t know, how to help you. I only take one day after the other. And I have to take it like it will come. All my power has gone by griefing. I said to God, doe with me what ever you want. You took away the best I have had, my Mom, my hold, my friend, my loving heart, and with our both money we have got along, and now all has gone. I realy don´t know Gods plan but I have to take it like it will comes. I hope that God will show you and me the way we have to go. Sorry Manuel, that I don´t have a helpful advice for you. I am feeling with you, but I know, this does not help you with all your problems.

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