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Grief Over Breakup
Lost Relationships

                 
                 
 

Grief over breakup...

Welcome to our "Lost Relationships" page. As one of our submitters said only too well, grief is about more than just death. We have many visitors come to our grief recovery website because they are mourning the loss of a relationship due to divorce or breakup.

In some ways, grief due to a failed relationship is more complicated and can be just as devastating as a death. When a loved one dies, there is a finality, a closure that helps set the grief process in motion. It is a hard thing, but at least the finality of death leaves you but one path... getting over the loss and returning to life without the lost one.

In a broken relationship, there is no proper closure. The beloved one is still alive, so there is no "clean break". There may even be hope in your mind that you can reunite with your lost partner. Your self-esteem may take a major blow, as you may feel like a failure, or guilty over the breakup. And if children are in the picture, the heartbreaking scenario is doomed to play out over and over again, as you must stay in touch for the sake of the children.

Our heart goes out to you in your loss. Just because your loved one did not die does not mean your grief isn't every bit as painful and heartbreaking to you. May you begin to heal by telling others about the loss of your own special relationship, and perhaps find some comfort in similar stories posted by others who have had tragic breakups.

Ready to tell your story?  It's very easy, and there is no cost. Just click in and start writing below:

(*Tip: Compose your story first in Notepad or other simple word processor, make all your corrections, then copy and paste into the box below. We also ask that you please do NOT type in ALL CAPS; but we would appreciate if you did capitalize "I". Thanks so much for following these simple guidelines.)
 


 

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What Other Visitors Have Said

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Dumbfounded  My husband of almost 15 years told me last week that he wants to leave, he is planning on leaving, and that he doesn't think we are "compatible." The shock ...

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Loss of a 24 year marriage.  My husband of 24 years left me for another woman, I have lost my husband, house and even grandchildren from my stepdaughter to this new woman!

I am ...

Completely Heartbroken  My name is Jewel and I have been divorced for 9 years and have never allowed myself to love since then until I met the love of my life two years ago. It ...

Jen  I recently was betrayed in the worst way possible by my partner. She had cheated on me before, and I always took her back. This, I know, was stupid and ...

Absolutely Devastated  My husband of 28 yrs has told me he is leaving me. I had found out he was having an affair at Christmas, but I wanted to work on our marriage and I thought ...

paul  my girlfriend gradually deteriorated into a full blown schizophrenic illness. At first i thought she might recover but she became gradually worse.

She ...

Why didn't he love me...  I have been alone for a year now.. I still miss him.. Why is it I can't just get on and forget what we were..?

I broke up with him because I didn'...

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My Parents  This is a complicated story because my mom died of cancer in 1996, but my dad got rid of me after that. We knew my mom was dying and my dad, who dealt ...

Broken heart  After being married 15 years and together for 3 children later my wife is leaving me and there's nothing I can do about it. I am so devastated and crushed ...

Truly heartbroken  After 7 1/2 years of my relationship, it has finally ended. Last night he finally gave me confirmation that it was over. He wants to remain friends, but ...

Breakup is worse than grieving a death  Hey my boyfriend of three years broke up with me in August 2008. I was devastated and had a breakdown and was out of work for three weeks. I pulled myself ...

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I lost my best friend  Last October, my husband suddenly left me and my kids. It was a shock to me and everyone! Our marriage was not perfect but it was not to the point of ...

My break up  I met a wonderful man who was in a marriage, but a very abusive marriage....we started as friends...support for each other...me giving him support with ...

Judi  I was married to a man for 30 years ..I did not know at first that he was gay. I tried to do what I thought was best at the time, and stay married and ...

A memoir to burn the soul  My name is Rahul and this is the story of how I lost the most beloved person of my life...

I am 20 and live in Karachi; about a year ago I met her, in ...

Empty and Broken  Ok here it goes...my name is Amanda. I am 28. I was with my boyfriend for almost 8 years. He lead me to believe that after all these years, we would eventually ...

Deep in grief  My name is Sarah and I am the adult daughter of a life-long sexual addict, which I didn't know until 5 years ago, when I was 23. When my mom told the kids ...

I Miss My Soul Mate!  I met J 16 years ago in the smoker's lounge at work. He was a very handsome, very boyish looking, well dressed thirty-something young man who I fell instantly ...

Marshall  Hi, my name is Marshall. Maybe writing my grief situation down and posting it will help me get through this process. I hope that there will be many people ...

Lost Childhood, Lost Family  My name is Jeff. I am a thirty year old man, married, a baby on the way. I am currently in the process of grieving what happened in my home as a child....

Reuniting with first love after 20 years  My story begins as a 36 year old woman going through a painful separation of a 16 year marriage...

I had not seen or heard from my first love from ...

She left me  My fiance Danielle walked out on me six months before our wedding. We had been together for over seven years, and I thought things had been going very ...

Its hurts so much  My Name is Joy been in a relationship for 16yrs, it was love on the first site; after few months dating we decided to stay together.

For all this years,...

I lost my love Landon  My story is of Landon. A man I loved with every part of my soul, who, in the end, did not love me enough. We met at church and I immediately had an attraction ...

The separation waiting to happen...  Hi, my name is Tina. I've recently ended a relationhsip that lasted for about 17 years. He was my first love. We started dating since I was 14 years old....

In the throes of grief  In November my wife left. A few days later I realized she had become addicted to prescription medication. I reached out to her, to her friends, to her ...

Heartbroken  July 26, 2009 My name is Benay. I lost my husband and best friend of 20 years in a different way than most. My husband Stephen needed to have surgery ...

It hurts.  I've dated this guy for three years and he suddenly broke up with me after a wonderful date. It's been a week so far and he is already dating another woman....

If you've experienced the worst breakup imaginable, after a long relationship..  When i was 15 i met a guy named jake. i liked him the first time i saw him, and the second time i had a crush. it was the beginning of that summer that ...

= (  James didn't die, physically- our relationship did, though, and it feels like a death to me. I'm not trying to compare my grief to anyone who has lost ...

The Pink Rock  Our daughter began using LSD/alcohol/pot at 12 yrs of age. At 14 she was date raped. We did everything we could, but it never was enough. By the time ...

To Love or to be Loved  My story starts back in 2006, when my heart was ripped from my chest, and has been stuck in my throat like a ball of mucus for the last 3 and a half years....

Abandoned and grieving  My grief is deep and painful. There will be no closure for me...ever. I don't know why what happened to me happened. It just did and now I am left to ...

Sam  Hi,
I don't know if I have a right to be on this site or not but I feel I need some where to talk. I haven't experienced a death but I am going through ...

Death of a 9 year Relationship  As some of the other stories found in here, I didn't suffer the loss of someone but rather, the death of my 9 year relationship. I have already experienced ...

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Loving Robert  Loving Robert


I met him almost 8 years ago. For the first time I was pursued and given value. He called me, left messages and love songs on my phone....

Grief Isn't Just About Death...  Just thought I'd point out that grief doesn't have to be about death; it can occur when you lose a relationship. If you made someone your centre, the star ...

After 24 years I am still in love with her  I am Mic a woman. Who in Mar of 1986 at a party met Pxxxxa the love of my life. We felt in love at the same time. I could not believe the feeling. I was ...

A hard and devastating awakening  Looking back, what would it take to pull me out of my secret sin… tear me up, beat me up, put me back together and give me a new Beginning… In Christ.

First,...

I have the best part of him with me all the time  My marriage was wrong from the start, but we tried to make it work. Years rolled by...10 years. Children were born. One day, after years of isolation ...

Jesse Jay  7th grade I was in my first serious relation, no sex was involved, but it was every serious.
Reasons unknown I toyed with his emotions, I lied to him,...

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Beyond a solid emotion  Being an ex-step-parent to 3 amazing kids is where it starts and ends. The relationship ended, and then they ended my relationship I had had with the kids ...

beyond sadness  I was married for 12 years. My partner had 3 children prior to me. Ages when we got married were 2,5,8. The relationship ended very poorly. She was very ...

The Prince and the Princess  Where to begin? I knew of my husband through my ex husband's older brother, if that is making sense. I fancied him for 19 years, my current husband, even ...

Loss of a son  My beloved son will not speak to me anymore, he lives out of town and I must somehow come to terms with possibly never seeing him or hearing his voice ...

I miss the love of my life!!!  My fiance and I reunited after 20 years being apart this year February 28, 2009. He found me on facebook, he lives in New Jersey and I live in California....

It hurts all the time  My ex-boyfriend broke up with me out of nowhere and then started dating my best friend a week later. Clearly, thses feelings they had for each other did ...

Lost in O-H-I-O  Hello....my story starts here in a small Ohio town. I was struggling emotionally and financially in life. I had to receive some help and it came from a ...

I just don't know.  Well, we were friends since high school (although she remembers me from 8th grade), but never dated. We even went through the majority of our college years ...

Devastation and Deceit  I married Mike a few months after my first divorce was final, a long and arduous process that took over 2 years. I was so lonely and, I guess, tired of ...

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