Grief that wont end.
My best friend starting dating my brother when she and I were 21. Soon after they had 2 children. My middle brother and I were very close. For the most part I feel my brothers raised me. Around seven years ago, my middle brother, my savior in many ways turned to alcohol which soon consumed him. My oldest brother and best friend started to take oxycontin amongst other drugs on a regular basis. All of our family was torn a part watching them raise the kids in this replica of hell. Soon we rarely talked and I had lost my best friend of many years to addiction. Needless to say I lost my oldest brother too. As hard as it was to watch himself die slowly I continued to talk to my middle brother, he had been there for me in so many hard times. Two years ago,two days after thanksgiving my oldest brother was driving with my best friend (his wife) and my middle brother. The crash that the family felt coming for a long time killed my best friend (the mother to my nephews and niece) and my middle beloved brother. My brothers grief as you can imagine is horrible. Only has not changed his life for his children to be able to heal he has only gotten worse. He doesn't allow us to grief because all he talks about is him and his pain as though he is the only one who grieves. His children have turned to drugs and acting out which I have not doubt that he aids this.My mother suspects abuse. Someone called dhs because he refuses to get help even for the kids.Dhs made an appointment with him. Giving him the chance to have things together. That is insane to me. I'm so scared of losing another!!!Guessing who will be next since in the last year we also lost my grandpa and my sort of steps as, my niece is so hurt and is killing herself slowly. Any ideas???