Grieving and so very lonely and lost

by Jane

I lost my beautiful dog less than a week ago. He had bone cancer and i had to take the decision to euthanise him when the cancer started to get the better of him. I love him so very much. It was just the two of us for 3 years so there was a really strong bond between us. I've lost my boyfriend of 7 months today. He has many good qualities but his worst are that he is a very critical, self righteous, judgmental and quite dominant. He knew that i had experimented with recreational drugs many years ago which he absolutely hated the idea of and is totally against but for some reason, he brought it up again last night and has been really nasty to me about it despite the pain im already in over my dog dying. I dont take drugs now and i was never a bad person so i dont think its fair to be so nasty about something in my past that i cant do anything about. I am so upset right now and feel so alone. I cant believe that someone who is supposed to love and support me would treat me this way and at this time.

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Mar 20, 2012
by: Janet

Hi June,

I understand your loss of your pet. I have loss several during the course of my life. I miss all of them today still, Garfield more especially.

Loosing your boyfriend today is probably the best thing that could happen to you at this point. Why would you want to be with someone is trying to dominate your life? You owe yourself so much more. You have feelings and those feeling matters.

Life is not fair but we can be. I am trying to adjust to loosing my husband of 25 years. It is not an easy journey but I will get through it. All you can do at this point in time is one breath, one step and one day at a time. To thine own self be true. May God Bless you,

Mar 19, 2012
So sorry for your loss
by: Veronica

Hello Jane,

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your dog. It sounds to me like your boyfriend was jealous of the relationship you had with your dog. Some people just don't get the fact that our animals can be closer to us than people that we love. I lost my little Snow Snow 15 weeks ago today. She was only 4 1/2 years old and she got hit by a car because I foolishly called to her from across the street. She was my life and I can't do anything without thinking of her. My friends and family just think of her as a cat but she was much much more than that. If I were you I would stop trying to understand why your boyfriend is criticizing you for your past. Its your past and as you said you can't change it. He either has to accept you as you are or let him move on out of your life. Anyone that can't understand that your heart is aching right now and probably will for some time doesn't have the compassion that you need.

I hope you get to the point of happy thoughts when you think of your dog. Living it I know it will be tough but some day the pain will not be as bad and you will be able to be happy again.

Stay well.


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