Grieving Aunt

Dear Grieving Aunt
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry for your loss and your sorrow. As a mother who lost a young son to an equally horrible epidemic a few months ago - suicide, I know your shock, anguish and pain.

Because it was my son and my own grief is so great, I sometimes forget that my sisters, brothers, mother, etc. are grieving too. Your sister needs you now, and you need her now.

I suggest you tell your sister that you are thinking about your nephew and that you, too, miss him terribly. I know that I wish my family would tell me that and talk about my son. Talk about your nephew, talk about his life and his death. Let your sister talk about him. Allow your sister to cry and cry with her. Do these things every week or every day if you need to, this month and next month and next year and every year after that. This will provide both of you some relief and allow you to grieve. If your sister is not willing or able to do these things with you, find someone who will.

I also suggest a grief support group. These are people who understand exactly what you're going through and are there because they do want to talk about their loved one, their loss and their feelings. Depending on the relationship you have with your sister, you may want to encourage her to attend as well. Even if she doesn't, go anyway.

It is a very long process and I can see that I am only beginning this unwelcome journey as are you.

I wish you bits of peace in the days and years to come. We will never forget these young men and I hope for a time when the sadness has purpose for us.

A Mom

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I am so sorry for your loss and your sorrow. As a mother who lost a young son to an equally horrible epidemic a few months ago - suicide, I know your shock, anguish and pain. Because it was my son and my own grief is so great, I sometimes forget that my sisters, brothers, mother, etc. are grieving too. Your sister needs you now, and you need her now. I suggest you tell your sister that you are thinking about your nephew and that you, too, miss him terribly. I know that I wish my family would tell me that and talk about my son. Talk about your nephew, talk about his life and his death. Let your sister talk about him. Allow your sister to cry and cry with her. Do these things every week or every day if you need to, this month and next month and next year and every year after that. This will provide both of you some relief and allow you to grieve. If your sister is not willing or able to do these things with you, find someone who will. I also suggest a grief support group. These are people who understand exactly what you're going through and are there because they do want to talk about their loved one, their loss and their feelings. Depending on the relationship you have with your sister, you may want to encourage her to attend as well. Even if she doesn't, go anyway. It is a very long process and I can see that I am only beginning this unwelcome journey as are you. I wish you bits of peace in the days and years to come. We will never forget these young men and I hope for a time when the sadness has purpose for us. A Mom

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