grieving daughter

Lost my mom a month ago to metastatic breast cancer to liver, lung nodule, and 10mm. brain lesion. She was admitted with vomiting and diarrhea soon after starting chemo pills. Once CT. scan showed a brain lesion, her doctor said she has been through enough, radiation treatments would cause more pain and she would have no quality of life, and told us she had a month to live at the most. The next day Hospice showed up and told us she had 24 hours to live....she lived another 5 days like this...leaving our family questioning her true prognosis. I am angry that nothing was done to help her more, since she was coherent when she walked into the hospital and now was taken off everything and left to die. I am angry that her doctor didn't do more. He walked out of the room that day, and I never heard or saw him again. Now researching more and speaking to several nurses, he should have offered more to our family, given her steroid's to stop the swelling, and taken her off the meds that caused her such heavy sedation she couldn't even respond to us. I am so hurt each and every day I have to live with the decision. Doctors need to REALLY talk to families and be specific as the what we can do for our loved ones.It truly will haunt our family for the rest of our lives.

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Aug 10, 2014
by: Anonymous

You have every right to be angry! With the new health care law, that is the way it's going to be. My husband was also "left to die"! There really are death panels. There is NO extra care given at all. The doctors literally just "observed" my husband while he struggled to breathe. He died of a totally curable condition! I had a full autopsy performed and contacted a lawyer. We'll see what happens. You will be in my prayers. Stay strong and find answers, you will feel better for having done it!

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