Grieving for other losses
I too have lost more than a loved one and am grieving as well.
In spring 2009 I lost my job. Shortly afterwards, our youngest daughter and family, including 2 granddaughters, moved 2,000 miles away. While we were happy for the great job opportunity, we were at a loss for coping with their moving so far away. We had been a very integral part of their lives for years and all of a sudden they were gone. A few months later our oldest daughter and husband welcomed our 3rd granddaughter while living only an hour from our home. A delight! In February 2010 they moved to build their home in the wilderness? an expected move as their 6 years in the Army had ended. Another goodbye! Only 2 months later we got a call no parent wants to get! She had been diagnosed with breast cancer. Our world fell apart. After surgery/radiation she was declared "good to go". We thank God every day for hearing our prayers.
Simultaneously, we found out my mother-in-law had terminal colon-rectal cancer. In October 2010 she passed away. After many trips to settle her estate (in our home town), her house sold May 2011.
While my husband is seeing the VA for ptsd Vietnam Vet, I have been seeing a counselor as well. She did tell me I was grieving, but until I read this web site I really didn't believe it could be happening to me. After all, I had already lost my parents and seemed to navigate through that. Perhaps because I was still working and that kept me busy. We are exhausted!
My self-confidence is pretty low because I usually am the "can-do" type of gal and navigate through most things pretty well. Actually, I'm the one who people usually come to if they have a problem. This entire venture has left me blindsided; crying all the time and wondering when this will all go away has exhausted me! Reading your web page has actually given me hope that all of this will find its place someday. It has been a long 2 years! My prayers to everyone out there going through a rough time!