Hang on its going to be a bumpy ride (again)

by Hope
(Beenthere 2)

1/11/11 Jules,

I am so sorry to hear about your brothers health problems. I want you to remember back in early-mid grief. Remember when we doubted our health, those around us? It was almost a clarity of paranoia. Of what could happen in the bat of an eye. Having those sick around us forces us to remember the very tragedy that we went through and brings the awful possibility of it happening again.

You will be strong for your brother though the feelings of helplessness return with a vengence. We relive the very thing that changed our life forever don't we?

Don't go to work. Figure out what you need to do and take control of the situation until you have the time to break down.

Again I am soooo sorry that you need to feel so helpless and relive the worst time of your life. Anticipation and worry really do bring out our worst fears and strength we did not think ourselves capable.

Hang in there Jules. Thinking of you...

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Jan 11, 2011
1 step forward 2 steps back responce
by: HH


Look under 1 step forward 2 steps back heading. I should have written the response there to Jules, But I wanted to make sure that she saw it when she came on. Hope your o.k Haven't heard from you. Really glad that you are here reading, staying in touch with people (Us) who know all about the crazy grief ride.
Actually Ozzy called it the crazy train. And I am still riding it.

Jan 11, 2011
hang on
by: jules

Hope and Zoe - thank you - as usual your words are spot on - I didn't work, my daughter came over, it poured all day - we have minor flooding here - not as bad as some other places nearby, but her and I spent the day together, played board game, laughed, talked and generally supported each other.

The news on my brother is that he is now waiting for results of tests from yesterday, and he will do whatever they say is necessary - bypass or whatever - I know he will be ok - but just being able to talk about what I am feeling and going through on this site, is the best therapy possible.

Thank you one and all - one step, one breath

Take care

Jan 11, 2011
Clearly I missed something
by: Zoe

So you get so wrapped up in your self then you read a post like this one that kicks you in your patootee.

I can only guess what is happening, but wanted to send hugs prayers and best thoughts to Jules
we are here.

Do what you can, know you will survive one breath one step one day at a time
and come back and talk to us when you need to.

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