Has it really been a year
"And can it be that in a world so full and busy the loss of one creature makes a void so wide and deep that nothing but the width and depth of eternity can fill it up!"-- Charles Dickens (1812-1870)
Yesterday it was one year since my husband Mark died. While I had been thinking about this date for a while, I came across a post on here that said they used their anniversary to thank the people who helped them over the past year and I thought that was an excellent idea. While there were many people who have helped me over the last year and my family has been tremendous, the following friends I could not have lived without:
"The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of confusion or despair, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate
not knowing... not healing... not curing... that is a friend indeed."--Henri Nouwen
Dawn- Your flexibility in my schedule and work assignments and your moral support were invaluable and I wouldn't be able to return to work w/o you.
Lesley- I thank you for your help w/ my paperwork, your running companionship, your friendship and the numerous little things you did.
Peggy- Thank you for reaching out to me even though we had never formally met. I will be forever grateful to you for recommending "I'm Grieving as Fast as I Can".
Colleen- Thank you for meeting me every Tuesday to run/walk - you probably didn't realize how much you were my lifeline in those early weeks. I would have crumbled if you skipped a Tuesday.
Elaine- My oldest friend :) Thank you for understanding how much that poem meant to me and for all of your support and quiet understanding.
Team Nacho (Elaine, Beth, Tracey) - Thank you for giving me Ireland and the Farm weekends. You don't know how important it was for me to have something to look forward to on the calendar. You all are so easy to be around - easy to laugh, cry, talk and explore.
Teresa- Thank you for our monthly dinners and being there to listen when I needed to talk
Diane- Thank you for mowing my lawn every week when I was happy to let it become a jungle.
Friends who also "get it":
Shellee- Thank you for reaching out to me immediately as someone who "gets it". Your suggestion of starting a journal saved me. Thank you for our frequent dinners in search of the perfect martini.
Eileen- I'm sorry we had to be together in this. Your perspective as a relative was unique. Thank you for bringing me "Widows wear Stilettos" as reading as much as I could was the only way I could find solace.
Tricia - Thank you for our talks as they were very therapeutic for me
Online Friends who also "get it":
Ralph- who is experiencing everything in real time with me- my "grief twin". My journey would have been so much more difficult without you. You could express feelings I could not and really knew exactly how I felt as I was feeling it. Thank you also for referring me to Bet's blog
Bet-your blog was a godsend to me as you were able to eloquently verbalize everything I was feeling but couldn't quite express. It was comforting to know I wasn't alone.
Zoe- whose posts I spoke to me and was very kind to correspond with me via email.
Hope-Even though I never contacted you, I be remiss if I didn't mention how your posts spoke to me as well and gave me comfort.
It's been a rough long year. Thank you all - Chris