He chose the drug life over me

by Rose

I met a wonderful man. He took care of me and my children. Then he got hooked on drugs without me knowing. He took all my money for two months telling me he was spending it to make a better life for us all. I lost my car, electricity service, and almost got evicted from my apartment because of him. I am a single mom of two children. I work hard and have no family to help me. My ex husband does not pay a penny to help my kids which are both his. One night we had a big fight and I kicked him out of my home. I then let him back in. The next week he left. He took my kids xbox, my tablet, and my air conditioner. I also had to cancel .mt atm card because he took that too. I cancelled the card and he called me screaming because he couldn't use my credit card. I fixed almost everything he messed up. Now he calls, emails or texts me very few weeks. He's asking for money or alcohol. He's asking me to forgive him and let him come home again. I love him. We were almost married. He is the only father my children have known since my ex husband. I still live him but cannot allow him to endanger my children. I want to forgive him and have the man I first met back. The problem is how do I move on from here. I want to spend the rest of my life with him but not in fear of him using drugs. My heart aches constantly. I cry endlessly when the kids are asleep. I go through each day pretending I'm ok. But I'm truly not. A piece of my heart feels like it's missing. I go on because I have to. I'm living a half life right now. None seem to notice but I feel it. I want the life I thought I had found back before he strutted using drugs. I'm at a standstill right now. I can't keep going on this way. Something has to give. I just don't know what.

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Jul 20, 2014
He chose the drug life
by: Doreen UK

Rose put your thinking cap on now and face REALITY. This man started using drugs. He deceived you. He stole from you. He wants an easy ride and he sees you as giving it to him. Tell him to get cleaned up first and then you may process letting him back into your life. But guess what? He may pretend he is getting cleaned up just to get back into your life. How would you know? You say you want the man you first met back before he started using drugs. You probably won't get that man back because once he is hooked on drugs it will be hard to kick the habit. Perhaps crying every night is your way of grieving what you can't have, and know you can't have because it is not what your really want. The best thing you did was to kick him out of your house. You need to keep him out and never let him back in otherwise you are courting disaster. He won't change. But you may change and not for the better. What role model would he be for your children? teach them about drugs. What behaviour would your children be exposed to? You should applaud yourself for kicking this man out of your apartment and for putting your children first. DON'T CHANGE A THING. Cry that man out of your system and be more careful who you attract into your life.

Jul 20, 2014
He's Not Right For You
by: Judith in California

Dear Rose, you will not be able to spend the rest of your life with this man. In no way can he be around your children. HE needs to fix himself. You can't fix him or love him into being what you need. The problem is that women allow themseles to live with a man when they have children and when something like this happens they suffer as well. NEVER LIVE WITH A MAN WHEN YOU HAVE CHILDREN. Now they have learned about dishonesty, llying, theiving, and disrespecting a woman.

You need all your focus on your children and to repair the emotional damage done to them and yourself.

How can you love a man that disrespected you and your home and children?!!!You must get your self respect back and move on.

You just don't have the time or energy to put into him anymore.
You have what I call God's giving you signs that this person was not for you. Pay attention to His warnings. Please listen to Him.

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