He left me after 18 years, then took my career

We were married 18 years when he decided that he didn't want to be married anymore, so he left me. I was devastated because I really didn't think things were that bad. The problem is, we also owned a business together, one that I had worked in for 7 years before we purchased it and ran it together for another 11 years. I told him that if he didn't love me anymore, I couldn't work with him anymore. It would be too hard on me. I felt it should be my business because it was my passion, and I was prepared to buy him out, but he wouldn't leave the business because he couldn't find anything better. So for 2-1/2 years after he left the marriage, I had no choice but to work with him. It was so difficult because I loved the business, but he wanted to control everything, and he treated one of the staff like his business partner, and me like dirt. Just last month, it went to a judicial dispute resolution, and I was forced out. I am so sad about it because he's taken over my career of 21 years after taking away our 18 year marriage and my family half time (we share time with our son - half with me and half with him). It just feels so unfair! And two losses in 2-1/2 years is hard to deal with.

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Jun 23, 2011
He left me after 18 years
by: Mari

I am so terribly sorry for what you have gone through. In fact it is beyond me how you could have worked in the business for 2 years with him treating you badly. True, you loved the business but a business is just that, a business.
He chose to get out of the marriage and take the business with him.
My heart goes out to you. You will have a grieving process to go through. That cannot be avoided. But if you rely on God you can start over.Each day ask God to get you through the day. Do all you have to do knowing you are not alone.
Believe me, you can make it but the process is gradual considering all you went through. Ultimately you will start a new life for yourself. Give yourself the needed time.
And you might consider a new career for yourself.Sometimes life has a way of dealing us unfairly.You have come to a wonderful board with nice people.Keep posting. We care. God Bless you.

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