He ruined my ability to fall in love again

by Marie
(New Jersey)

I met my 2nd husband almost 14 years ago in 1998, we met in a club, as soon as we saw each other...we knew that we would be together, the chemistry was amazing! I was newly divorced and he had been divorced for about 6 yrs from his 1st. wife. He does not have children; but, when we met, my children (3) were in early teen years. My 1st husband and I divorced when I found out that he had been cheating on me for almost 10years. Anyway, Michael(2nd husband) and I dated for 7 years before we married, my children were grown at that point, I moved to Fl. with him and for 2 blissful loving years as newlyweds we were very happy, the love and chemistry just kept growing, although I did miss my children, in NJ. Then, his mother had a stroke, lived in NJ, 84 yrs. old, he moved her to Fl., asked If I would be her caregiver..he would pay me 10.00 hrly., in other words, he became my boss. This killed our relationship, I became depressed, he became a total ass...he stopped putting our new marriage first, I left the marriage...to save my sanity..and moved back to NJ, my grown children helped me pick up the pieces, I truly loved and still love Michael. But he doesn't care, after 3 years I'm still aching for him...I have never phoned him because I know that to do that would be detrimental to my emotional health....It still hurts soo much!

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Mar 03, 2012
Don't Give Him That Power
by: Judith in California

Hang tough Marie.. please do not call him because you're right about your mental health. You are wise to recognize that.

Please don't give him the power to stop you from loving and being loved by a special someone. Be patient and that someone will come along. Ask the right questions make sure he has God in his heart along side of you.

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