He took me on an 11 year Test Drive and he decided not to buy because he heard some rattles and squeeks??
Hi, I was with a man for 11 years, he didnt want to get married again due to 2 failed marriages, and I loved him enough to stay with him. He was a surrogate father to my daughter, who adored him. Last year he began acting aloof and distant, and when I confronted him he said he needed a break, and had been on a couple of "dates that werent going anywhere" I got upset, when was he going to tell me...(really?) so told him to take his break and shove it. After a month with no contact, I reached out to him and he said he wanted to be alone and 'reflect". I left him alone for a couple more months, then reached out again. He said he still needed to be alone and take care of himself. Finally I begged him to meet me and tell me (after 11 years together) what was going on. He said *OK, but just dont make a scene* Ouch! We met at starbucks 3 months after the initial breakup and no closure, and he looked at me and said "I dont have the same feeling for you anymore" I asked him how long he had been cheating, and he denied it saying he needed to be alone. That was it!! That was it?? I was supposed to walk away and pick up the pieces without another word?? No conversation about anything!! He stood up and walked away, trampling on my heart on the way out.
Oh I did all the wrong things, begged, pleaded, another chance...all the mistakes. To no avail, he was cold. A year later, I am doing better, but the memories, all of them, of our life together...I dont want to start over at my age!!
I have tried dating, but just get disappointed. He is 63 years old!! Why does HE want to start over? He has no children, no pets, and now he wants to start over with another woman, her children?? And then what? He gets to walk away again after he "No longer feels the same way?"
I am devastated, getting therapy for abandonment issues, and wonder if I will ever enjoy life again. My daughter has gone on to Post Grad school, and I am now alone, at 58.
No he didnt break my heart, he just ripped it out of my chest without a backward glance. No responsibilities. No feelings, no nothing.