Heartbroken Mother and Grandmother
In a nutshell, my daughter and I have had a very rocky relationship for past few years and it got worse when she came home pregnant at 17. Although my husband (her step-father) and I were upset and angry, we worked through it and welcomed our grand daughter 6 weeks ago. There have been many ups and downs through her pregnancy and after delivery with her mental state. She is diagnosed with having anxiety and depression, and am convinced that she has Oppositional Defiant Disorder and bipolar disorder. She has been on medication, but does not take it regularly. This past week, things came to a head after she didn't want to follow the rules of my house and accept her punishment. We had a blowout fight and she took her daughter and left my house. She called me crying two hours later saying that she needed to come home because the baby needed things. I let her back in and told her that we would talk in the morning. I woke up and she was gone again with the baby. I called and her cell phone was off. She later called me to talk and I gave her two options. To come home and I would continue to support them or to leave and live with the boyfriend (as she has always threatened that she would do) and have nothing. No cell phone, no money, no rides to dr. appts....nothing. She chose to leave. The grief and the pain are unbearable. Sometimes I don't even know how I'm making it through my day as I feel that I am living outside my body. I miss both of them tremendously. My granddaughter was ripped from my arms two days ago and my heart and soul went with her. I have no idea how I will move past this. I feel totally empty.