He's moving far away from me...
I’m 23 years old and I’ll be graduating from college in about a week and a half. Even though I’m supposed to be in a very happy time in my life right now, these last few weeks I’ve been really depressed over a guy who I have become very close to and attached and I don’t know what to do. This year, everything was going great for me. As of January 1, 2011, New Years Day, I started off great and knew 2011 was going to be a great year for me. I was about to graduate from college (in 2 weeks), got a job, started new friendships and had met a wonderful guy who came into my life. He was the perfect guy who had all the qualities I ever wanted in a guy. I met him ending of my second to last semester of college. We started to become really close over winter break and by spring semester, we hung out a lot. Even though I had a crush on him, I never really told him until he was the one who first approached me and told me how he felt and how much he really liked me and had a huge crush on me. After that, we started to become really close and started to talk online and through text a lot. Things were going great. We were so good together; we had a lot in common, thought the same way, and even liked the same things. He was so sweet, treated me right and is very kind hearted always thinking about others. Everything was going great until in March, he told me he had bad news and that he was going to move out of the country (Montreal, Canada) to work for his cousins company there after college. I felt like my entire world collapsed when he said this. However, we continued to hang out and not think about him “moving away”.
It never really hit me up until a week ago when I was thinking about my future and how he won’t be with me this summer. He says that he will keep in touch with me through skype and will let me know anytime he comes to visit LA (all his close friends and half his family live here) but you never know. He told me how he really likes me and that if he wasn’t moving away, we could have been together and started a relationship. This really breaks my heart knowing that if he stayed, he could have been mine and we could have had something. I can’t seem to get this out of my head and it’s been really depressing to me. He doesn’t want long distance, and I can understand why…I don’t think I’d be able to handle that too. He says that me MIGHT be back in a year or so if he ends up not liking there or something but doubts he won’t like it and that he might stay there since he enjoys the lifestyle, which really upsets me and brings my hopes down. I’m just afraid of losing him to someone else and never finding a great guy like him that’s compatible and meets the same standards he did. I really don’t know what to do. I randomly cry at times thinking about this and have been very depressed. People tell m to get over it, but honestly, it’s a lot harder said then done. I don’t think I can get over something like this fast nor will I ever completely be over it. I’ve never liked anyone like this before so I don’t know.
After talking to a few friends about this, they told me that “Everything happens for a reason” and that there must be something good behind this. I really hope there is. They said that I should not try to convince him to stay because a) it won’t work, especially since people have tried already (plus I don’t want to be greedy and selfish by letting him stay here for me) and b) if there is something good coming out of this in the end, it won’t happen by me trying to change his mind to stay. It’s kind of depressing when all your friends are in a relationship and we all go out and I feel like the third wheel… =’( What if I end up being single and not finding that perfect guy, what If I never meet the one and end up alone? =( I really hoped this summer would be the best but I feel like this entire year just got ruined and I’m going to be depressed for a while.