Valentines Day was so hard. Roger and I met on Valentines Day. He was a construction worker. Kind of rough around the edges. But he would have given you his shirt off his back. He loaned a friend $4000 A few months before he passed away to help his daughter with college. When I reminded his friend about it he said that he didn't borrow it his daughter did and I would have to get the money from her How sad some people are. This was supposed to be one of his best friends. A friend Roger said would help me after he died and I could count on him. So much for friends. Roger was the sweetest man. Even after 34 years of marriage he introduced me as his bride. I miss him so much and the pain is almost unbearable.
Yvonne~ When my husband passed away three months ago he had two friends that he had huge fallings out with. One of his friends called me two days after he died, apologized to me for what he had put Joe through, and asked me if I wanted him at my husband's funeral. I said, "Of course, you guys were friends for 30 years. The argument was so long ago." He came, he wept, he was truly sorry. The other one sent me an $8.00 condolence card filled with the biggest bunch of BS I have ever read in my life. It was an ease my conscience card. I ripped it to shreds and threw it in the garbage. If a person is willing to admit their actions were wrong (we're all human ~ we all make mistakes) I can forgive anyone anything. The friend that filled up every inch of the huge card with words of guilt angers me beyond words. If I live to be 100 I'll never understand some people.
There are too many good people in this world ~ don't waste your time on people who just want to take advantage of you. Move away as fast as you can.
I'm sorry for your loss. We are all grieving and all here for each other. Hugs and blessings to you. This grief thing is very difficult.
