How can I help my Mother-in-law cope with her daughters death?
It was nine years ago when my Mother-in-law lost her daughter. She was killed in a car accident and died right away. The daughter wanted to be cremated and was. My Mother-in-law will still get Christmas presents for her and has a memorial set up for her in the house. She still hasn't gone through all the stages of grief yet and no matter how we try to help, it seems to only make it worse.
My family is planning to leave after dinner on Christmas day but she got so upset that we are planning to go that she pulled the ashes out and sat down and was stroking the urn. I told my husband that he needs to get his Mom some help with a therapist, but he just keeps making excuses that everyone goes through the death process their own way. But it has been nine years now. Can someone give me advice on how to help or what you think I can do in any way?