How Could This Have Happened

My dear friend since 10th grade was killed in a car accident and I had no idea.
We did not speak daily. We might pick up where we left off after a couple weeks. We knew (now in our 40s) that we were there without question.
I've been sending her text messages and e-mails, but no response. She battles depression and her 'dropping out' for a time is not unusual.
However, she always sent a response back but this time nothing...
Weeks pass and I did a Google search to find her husband's email to check in with him to make sure she was okay. What came up was an accident report. My blood felt like ice watching the news on a local station posted weeks earlier.
She not only died in the accident, but she took another life while drinking and driving.
She was a quiet gentle soul. I feel like this is a nightmare and I'm going to wake up.
I don't even begin to know how to contact her family. From her obituary it seems they did not have a funeral, but a discreet burial. I don't know if it's due to circumstances. I cannot seem to snap out of the shock I'm in enough to process this. I cannot imagine how the family of the other driver must be suffering.
This is tragic in every way. There was no peace in this passing.

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Jul 03, 2012
How could this have happened
by: Doreen U.K.

My dear friend. Accidents happen and take us by surprise and even sadness if it someone we knew. It is a shock and you are in shock now which is difficult for your to process. Numbness actually helps us from going over the edge till we are able to see things for what they are.
Sadly this passing was not peacefull and this is the sad reality of carelessness in drinking and driveing. often there is a double tragedy and innocent casualties. But people still go on and live in an irresponsible way. Perhaps through depression, or not thinking clearly because of an arguement etc. Who knows why people do the things they do. It is sad that life happens and we can't undo this. But perhaps someone who is thinking about drinking and driving may have second thoughts. You are grieving and this will take time to go through your system. It will get better in time. I hope that you are able to find your friends husband and able to understand things better and pay your respects.

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