How do you cope?

by Chrissy

I guess I'll start off with I'm 27. My parents worked a lot so I grew up living with my Grandma after my Grandpa died when I was 8. His death hurt but I was young so didn't fully understand. It wasn't until 8 years later I really felt the loss My Mother died of a brain aneurysm and I was 16. After I got married at 19 and had my daughter I had 2 miscarriages. Not even a year later after the second one I lost my Rock...My Grandmother due to a fire. I've done everything I can to keep it together ever since it's going on 5 years this year but it still seems like yesterday. Time stood still for the longest time but around me it's still going. My heart shattered. I've felt empty and I seem to miss them all at once at times and it gets so overwhelming. How are you suppose to just accept that and cope and carry on??? I just don't get it.

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Sep 28, 2014
Hi, Chrissy, I need your help!
by: Jennie

I am so very sorry for the losses you have endured, my sincerest condolences. We have transitioned to a new system, and for better access to advice and support, please click on "The Grief Club" button on the left for access to the new Forum. We want to keep this great online grief resource going and need your help! Please re-post this or put a new submission there. All your friends are waiting...

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Could you please contact me via "Contact Us" button to the left? I need your help also for the transition. Thanks so much!

Sep 15, 2014
How do you cope?
by: Doreen UK

Chrissy I am so sorry for your loss of your mother to a sudden death, your grandmother and your two unborn babies. You have been through so much loss in your young life with hardly a moment to catch your breath. Despite being 5 years ago it is not easy to handle all this grief on your own. Try and see a grief counsellor to help you get some perspective on each loss and so be able to move forward. You are probably stuck in grief and it is all confusing when there is so much pain to wade through.
Your grief needs to be separated into each loss so you can give space to each loss and cry those tears to wash out your overflowing pain.
Only then will you be able to move forward better and reclaim your life back. Life does get better in time. Even though it doesn't feel like it now. I have held on to such pain for many years until I was forced to do something about this. I went into counselling and it was the best thing I did for myself. I got my life back in ways I had never dreamed of and saw life in the best way I had never experienced. I wasted too many years in pain. I am now FREE. I lost my husband of 44yrs. to cancer 2yrs. ago. I had the best foundation in counselling to help me cope with the many challenges of life with its losses. I cope better with life and grief.

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