husband has lost both parents in two years time
Since my husband and I got together three and a half years ago we've .endured the loss of his father and his mother. we were less than 9 months into our relationship with his father which took a big toll on him. shortly after losing his father his mother started her cancer treatments. it was a very rocky road it take a big toll on us both, him especially.
I believe that since all of this, it definitely put a big strain on a relationship. it seems as though we're not the same people we were when we first met. which is quite common in situations like this.
I'm the type of person to just grab the bull by the horns and just deal with whatever needs to be dealt with. Him, not so much. he's gotten to where he doesn't want to do with anything he doesn't want to deal with the death of his parents he doesn't want to deal with the aftermath that has come from it. he doesn't want to deal with any of the things that it had to remove from their home and ultimately brought into our own home. our lives have been just completely turned upside down twisted inside and out.
his way of managing or coping is to sit on his phone for hours and play games, almost completely ignoring the life around him and what needs to be dealt with. its been almost a year since his mother has passed and we still have boxes upon boxes stacked in almost every room every nook and cranny in every corner of our house. He refuses to let me deal with it because he knows I will probably just throw most of it out cause its not necessary or needed. and at the same time he says I'll deal with it I'll take care of it. I promise I'll get some of it taken care of this weekend.
wondering when that weekend will ever come.
I am at my wits end not knowing what to do or where to go. I've tried to help him I've tried to be encouraging I Have tried to be supportive, but it doesn't seem to help our make a difference. I feel as though it may he time for me to move on and move forward, but I feel guilty for feeling that way.
We are strangers to one another now. The person i first key and fell in love with isn't there anymore. The person that is there now ifs a mean, hateful negative person. He refuses to get help or to see a counselor about it.
I understand what has caused him to get like this and have tried to help him...but nothing i go seems to help. I personally can not continue living my life this way...
I need advice please.