Husband just disappeared
It has been over 3 weeks since my husband of 32 years(together 38 years) texted one line: Ran away. He had been making plans for several weeks, maybe longer. He took 1/2 of the cash that I told him I was saving to go on a "real" vacation since I had never had one. He also emptied his IRA at the bank and took the cash. He called in sick to work every day (no showed the last day) , but made believe he was going, always calling me "on his break", as usual. He left both cars. We had had many arguments over the past several months, mostly me yelling because he was VERY withdrawn and would no longer do anything around the house. He kept saying he was in a lot of pain (he had a significant injury several years ago and almost lost his leg- he was at the hospital for several months off and on for 2 years).He lost his job and had a difficult time getting another one. He didn't care for this one. I know he probably was in pain, and I made several appointments for him. He even had knee surgery 2 months ago. He also was having stomach issues, and I think he was depressed. His job was 2nd shift and he was eventually going to get 1st shift, but apparently that wasn't happening. I later found out that he was acting confused at work and couldn't "move up" due to lack of concentration. We have 3 grown children, who were his world (and are mine), but he hasn't contacted anyone. His phone has not been on since the text. He hasn't contacted his parents, either. The police list him as a missing person (but I found out that doesn't mean much for an adult male). I found out that he showed up at a bank (no idea which branch-very wide radius) on Sept 11th to empty the rest of the IRA- very large penalty to be paid, as he is not old enough to withdraw this money. But his privacy is protected. I have done nothing but cry; I feel that I will surely die of a broken heart. Just 2 weeks before, we had had a wonderful weekend together, in which he held me so close and said " I miss you so much, so very much. I love you so much". I ramble, but I am so grief stricken, just waiting for him to come home. He is not very employable, but can he just keep withdrawing IRA's to live on? I just want him to come home. I miss him so very much.